Why Love Doesn't Exist
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Why Love Doesn’t Exist

Sources: Marx, genetics, vodka, TV ads, college parties, breast implants, pop music, Rousseau, chocolate, the brain, more vodka, Machiavelli and Hobbes

Proof One: Ideology and Justification

“Love” is a nice tool utilized by the human psyche to further certain evolutionary goals, such as survival of the species. Human beings have a long gestation and maturation span; it takes years until a young human is self-sufficient and independently functional (estimates range around 23 to 26 years, longer in some individuals). In addition, the female of the species is weak and fairly useless in the final months of pregnancy. Without “love,” the female of the species would long since have been abandoned by the male post-copulation, especially considering that the said act would be unable to be performed from midway through pregnancy to several weeks to months after birth. In order to ensure the survival of the species, “love” is needed to maintain a steady supply of nutrients and security. “Love” creates a kind of net to keep the parents attached to each other for the offspring’s survival.

Another form of “love” (of the filial sort) is necessary for the newborn to imprint upon the parents directly after birth. Without this, there is no motivation for the parental generation to keep their offspring, except if for some personal use, such as nourishment or labor. This lack of imprinting can be seen in cultures ranging throughout history. Certain children lacking the crucial characteristics necessary for the “love” to latch onto the parents are systematically rejected by the parents. These characteristics are almost infallibly determined by social ideals and paradigms – this provides some evidence that “love” is not an innate thing but something created and formed by society.

In addition, certain animals, such as humans, are found to possess a certain gene which makes them more receptive to long term relationships, based on the maturation period of the young of that species. In this way, scientists have seen that human beings come built with receptors for ideology and justification, perhaps located on individual cells, or related to some type of hormonal response to danger and loss of comfort.

Proof Two: Love at First Sight is Based Solely on First Sight

“Love” for the human being comes in stages, the first being attraction. Attraction come from the word attract, which means, among other things, to be alluring. Alluring comes from the word allure, which means, among other things, to entice with something desirable. Desirable comes from the word desire, which means, among other things, sexual appetite. The first stage of “love” is based on sexual feelings, physical responses to the visual and hormonal (but mainly visual; a large number of people wear perfume, and it is fairly impossible to distinguish individual hormones in a room full of pubescent, perspiring persons). College parties are notorious for this first stage of “love.”

“Hook ups,” a colloquialism used by many college-aged students, refers to the practice of unattached and casual copulation. Without failure, the end goal of these is not procreation, so it is to be expected that “love” is also not one of the end goals. It is only when these develop into long term relationships, with potential for marriage and procreation, that “love” will progress beyond attraction. It should be duly noted that many “hook ups” involve substantial quantities of alcoholic beverages; the inebriated state tends to, among other things, impair vision and increase sanguinity.

In addition, consider the form of communication humans call media; the visual arts. Note that in all the television ads, romantic movies, etc, the main characters, i.e. the ones falling in love, are almost always physically attractive – they are almost infallibly what society deems “beautiful.” Love between two unattractive people is not nearly as appealing, revealing two points: 1. that attraction and physical appearances are integral, vital, perhaps the fundamental tenet of “love,” and 2. humans need to be convinced of love.

Proof Three: Love is Learned

Humans have to be told that “love” exists. Little children play in segregated groups until they have been socialized to believe in “love.” These desegregations tend to occur well before puberty, so hormones and biological processes cannot be blamed for this. Instead, we see it is the ideal of “being in love” that lead many young children, especially young girls, to develop a psychological need to “have a crush,” which is a slang term for an attraction based purely on physical separation and unattainability. The removal from the source of affection is very important; the distance ensures that the relationship will never actually happen. Around the early teens, perhaps even sooner, young girls begin to develop a stronger psychological need – the necessity of a “relationship,” a sort of a precursor to “love.” These “needs” all arise purely from society and the socialization of youth.

Socialization comes in many forms, ranging from older siblings, to movies, to books and magazines, to the actions of the youth’s parents. All of these sources are controlled by prevailing social norms. The source of these norms is long since forgotten and lost – indeed, “love” is not the biological necessity it once was for survival of the species. In fact, it is contributing to the gradual decline of the fitness of man through loss of natural selection because of overpopulation. The original source of “love” was lost generations ago, and the institution itself has become a convention that lives on merely because it always has and because humans believe it to be immortal.

Proof Four: Love Tastes Like Chocolate

The actual physical sensations that “love” produces can be traced to the brain, to the releasing of specific hormones that cause the body to react in certain ways. The same effect “love” produces can also be triggered by other substances acting upon the brain. Chocolate and alcohol are two well known chemicals that are widely used, which can produce the same effects of “love.” Their effect on the brain – a shift in the balance of chemicals and hormones, and subsequently on the body as well – as well as their destructive effects on the body are synonymous to the process of “love.”

Proof Five: Love Equals Security

When humans believe that they have fallen in “love,” they believe that their lives have fallen into place and that circumstances are bound to go their way. In actuality, like alcohol, “love” has painful side- and after-affects. Still, humans continue to believe that “love” is the ultimate goal in life, and that it is the solution to all problems. This is almost solely the cause of failed “love.” Humans who have experienced the worst in “love” must convince themselves that they will also experience the best possible outcomes – a delusion expressed virtually everywhere: movies, music, magazines, books. They mistakenly believe that “being in love” equates to not being alone. As fearful herd animals, “love” becomes an ultimate solution to loneliness and the instability of independence.

In addition, the institution of marriage is supported by the federal government in such a way that it provides a nominal degree of additional security and fiscal support above unmarried individuals. Since marriage has (strangely) become associated with “love,” the connection is obvious.

Part Six: Love Requires The Nonexistent Entity of Trust

Humans are incapable of trust. Any individual claiming otherwise is plainly insane, unstable, and is to be disregarded.

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