Here also we celebrate that greatest intimacy we can have for each other, our sexualities. We do not support a separation of sex from love, and therefore assign sex magic to the Green Power. The altered consciousness in orgasm, used as a gnosis in magic, we amplify and extend using much-documented Tantric sex techniques and by challenging our own sexual imprint by doing those thing we 'wouldn't do.'
The rapport skills and other communication skills by which we get on with each other we find learnable, and therefore much get-laid magic and personal charisma spells take (a valuable) second place to mundane headology. These skills used appropriately will bring us our lovers and take us to heaven with them as often as we wish.
We learn in the Green Power that the impression we make on someone in the first few seconds of encountering them sets the tone of their response to us in future, and we can only with difficulty change some impressions. We therefore consider it crucial to make the right first impressions on anyone. We do not concern ourselves with 'being' our 'real' self, since we do not believe in any such ghost. We express to impress, with whatever goal we have in mind for the encounter.
May I respectfully recommend flirting as a full-time occupation? You need not want a sexual encounter with someone for you to find that flirting with them, old, young, either gender, any context, enriches your experience of them and they generally respond better than you might have expected. Couples especially can keep the zing in their relationship by flirting more, especially with each other. If necessary, get a book which describes the signals of interestedness and so forth, but avoid swallowing whole the sweeping generalisations offered in crappy body language books.
You can also learn much and attract more wanted attention by putting yourself in the other person's position. Sometimes literally, occupying their habitual locations relative to you, or in imagination seeing yourself through their eyes and with their thoughts, as you discern them. Remember though to return to your own point of view, so to speak.
Attraction/flirting skills Add eye contact skills, smile, face other, lean into them, nod, touch.
Glamour skills Appearance, style, scents, voice. Language and content.
I offer some exercises based on material from Peta Heskell's book, 'The Flirt Coach.'
Inhale, tipping pelvis forward as though scooping energy.
Exhale, tipping pelvis back as though emptying energy into yourself.
Think erotic thoughts, collect sensation into the pelvic bowl and imagine it as a ball of energy under the skin going down between the legs, up the spine, over the head, down the face, down the front of the body and back to the pelvic bowl. Loop it, synchronise to breathing.
Think erotic thoughts, notice origin of sensation (pilot light) and send subtle breath into it, flaring it everywhere.
Inhale through soles, up inside leg through perineum to penis tip.
Exhale back through perineum, along inside hip creases down outside leg to soles.
