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| Caelan Michael June 2, 1995 |
| I was only 19 when Caelan was born. Young, naiive and in love, or so I thought. Looking back now it was a relationship that I wouldn't have picked for myself. But without it, I wouldn't have my oldest boy. |
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| My pregnancy was uncomplicated. The birth was 'easy' for a first time birth. Exactly 8 hours long on an early June day. Both of my parents were there, along with the biological father. At this time we were still together. Caelan was born weighing in at a whopping 8lbs 7oz! That's a big baby for a first time birth. Looking back now I think I may have even had gestational diabetes then. He was a gorgeous babe, curly blond hair, bright blue eyes. He learned quickly and was the light in our lives. My relationship with his father soured, and we went our separate ways. I had hoped that having him move out would have brought him closer to his son. That way he could spend quality time with him, rather than a large quantity of unproductive time. This turned out to be a misconception. Caelan's biological father was young (still, he was older than me) and not ready to be a dad. I had to force him to see Caelan on the few times he did. He would often call and ask to see him, only to not show up or turn around and bring him right home saying he was 'too tired'. |
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| We are so lucky to have my parents in our lives. They were the stability Caelan needed. The summer of 1997 I spent a lot of the weekends out with my friends. During that time I met and fell in love with my husband. Our first official date was a trip to a local children's theme park. He spent most of that date chasing after Caelan and playing with him. I knew then, that he was the right man for my son and I. Caelan's biological father offered to give up his parental rights (asking "will I still have to pay child support? No? OK, how about claiming him on my taxes? No to that too. Hm, OK. I'll do it.") And Brian officially adopted him in 1998, the year we were married. |
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| Caelan is a good, loving boy. He's had some struggles with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, Sensory Integration Dysfunction, and Anxiety. These are managed with ongoing counselling, medication and a 504 plan at his school. His favorite subjects are Gym and Math. He's an average student and got his best report card ever this past quarter. He's still got the curly blond hair, although darker than his toddlerhood, and bright blue eyes. He's one handsome guy, and is sure going to steal some hearts as he gets older. |
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