KINABUKASAN SOCIETY

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Dear Ate Helen

   Dear Ate Helen,

   I'm writing about Ben. We're in our twenties
   and both work in Makati. In fact, we used to be officemates.
   I've known him for almost  two years and all the time, I've been in-love with
   him, although we are just  friends and he has a girlfriend he intends to marry.

   Ate, I can't help fall in love with him. He's perfect; responsible,
   intelligent, resourceful, thoughtful, loving,  sweet, caring, upright,
   kind, family-oriented and God-fearing  individual. His good looks is
   just an added bonus. I can't believe such a man still exists today
   and I will forever be thankful for his friendship.

   It pains me to be so in-love with him because  he and his girlfriend
   are perfect for each other and are so happy being together. I don't
   know if he's aware of my feelings for him. But winning his heart, I think, is out of the question.

   His girlfriend is too precious for him.  Losing her would truly hurt
   him, and I don't want to see him in pain. I know, however, that a
   part of me wishes he would reciprocate my love.
   But he's just too good  for me. He deserves someone better, like the girl he has now.
   Knowing he's happy with her is enough  consolation for me. I want
   his happiness even if it would mean my own
   despair. God knows how much I'm suffering. Writing this letter alone
   is already torture.

   I've been trying very hard to forget him. I've done ways I know to
   free myself. Pero ang kulit talaga ng puso ko, ayaw sumunod. Ate, I
   haven't seen or talked with him for a long time and I thought his
   absence would somehow cool down the feeling, but it hasn't. I don't want to miss
   him, but I do miss him terribly. How can I forget him?

   Whenever I see a place, a thing or a  situation, my mind automatically
   associates it with him. His memories occupy  most of my walking and
   sleeping hours. His face pops into my mind in the middle of
   my lunch, when I'm talking with my friends, cleaning our house or just
   doing something which has nothing to remind me of him.

   Odd, but true. I'm not bitter Ate, I don't blame myself , him nor God
   for this situation. As a matter of fact, I'm  thankful, painfully odd as
   it is, this situation has made me more mature person I am now. But I
   can't help ask myself why should a woman, or a man for that matter,
   fall for another when they are not meant for each other? Why Ate? Why?

   You know Ate, whenever I pray, I always ask  God to help me let go of
   this love. I just want to feel the same way  he feels for me --as a
   friend and nothing more. I know I can get through this because I
   believe that God wouldn't give me something He knows I couldn't handle.

   Someday I would be able to smile again without being hurt when I
   remember him. God has His reason for all of these and until I know the
   reasons, I want to hear words from you.
   Please Ate Helen, help me.

   Sincerely, Robert

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   Ate Helen's Advice:

   Dear Robert,

   Lintek kang bakla ka pinagod mo pa ako sa
   pagbasa ng letter mo!
   Malandi! Tigilan mo na ang ilusyon mo, hindi
   mo kayang ibigay kay
   Ben ang kayang ibigay ng girlfriend niya,,sa
   susunod na sumulat ka pa
   sa akin, ipapapatay kita!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

   Ate Helen


Contributed by: Elma 'ECT' Torregrosa

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