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The Right Person

Somebody once told me that "Finding the right person is very hard and
very wrong.....it is best to be the right person for the one you love
and start from there...  you'll always  end up disappointed when you set
standards and define a "right person" for you...and don't rush
things....coz somewhere somehow God is preparing somebody for you."
You can never be perfect...the person you love can never be
perfect...but both of you can be perfect through love and prayers, and
your love can be perfect through the both of you.  But, no relationship
is complete without God.....  that's why we have marriage..it's a bond
not only between you and your loved one....but also with God.

Our relationships fail not because (s)he's not the right person....it's
because we expected too much and we decided on our own....let God do the
work...you may call it waiting time....but while you are waiting...pray.
Let God guide you always...He knows better. No, He knows best.

Love is not what you think it is.... Sometimes we mistakenly feel that
our first relationship will be our last.  Because we are overwhelmed with
joy and romance, we forget to learn the meaning of true love. Some are
saying that love is unselfish, blind, unconditional or simply denying
oneself for the sake of someone very important in our life. Others are
saying love is immortal and can never be defined. When we think we're in
love the first thing we almost wanted the whole world to know is that our
love for someone very special can never be taken away from us. We say this
phrase "You are the most wonderful gift from GOD I have ever received..."
After a terrible fight or sometimes even a petty quarrel we then say "You
are the biggest mistake i've ever made for my entire life...!!!!". Now, how
do you say and spell the word L-O-V-E?
Are you really deeply into it?. Nobody can tell what love really is until
experience speaks and whispers right into our ears. Most of the time, these
love promises like "Forever, Till Death do us apart, etc." would end up
"Never"  and "We should part ways, I'm no longer happy with you! My love for

you is DEAD!!!".

Many times we thought after having committed to someone and your trust to
one another freezes down to zero degree "S/He ain't the right one. I should
probably wait for the right one to come." But the big question anyone could
not answer is "Is she/he the right one?" and "When is the right time?" That
made us stick to whom we are with. Will you always be waiting for the right
person to come and the right time to commit?

A big YES is the answer. Don't be in a hurry to get into a relationship
because you can never find love if  you insist that you are already into
it. Try to find time to really understand your real feelings, to know
who you really are, and what you really want in a relationship. You're
right, There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but there's a
compatible partnership that goes along with it. If you already knew that
you're too big to fit into a small sized t-shirt, don't give it a try.
You'll probably break it and pay for the damages you have made. If you
knew and felt that the relationship will not last, don't go deeper into
it.  You'll just suffer the consequences and live like hell the rest of your life.

It's really hard to say goodbye though, but you can't make it any better
by just pretending you still have the same feelings. Try to let go and
give yourself a chance to live life to the fullest. Give yourself a
chance to grow and give your heart a much needed attention.

Then you will find that you have made the right decision and you made it
all by yourself. More frequently than not, we all act in a hypocritical
manner for some reason.

We call it love when we can't leave someone and see them crying as we
try to let go. We are wrong, its just pity. We call it love when we're
too attached and think that losing the one we love will somehow make us
weak and unable to face the storms of life.  We misunderstood, its just
that we're too much dependent to them.  We call it love when we give our
whole life to them, the wholeness of us and imagined that if they leave
no one would accept us and our past. We are mistaken, its just
insecurity. But no matter what the definition is, the truth still
remains that love isn't something you can buy nor beg.  It is real and
existing. You can't touch it but you can feel it in your heart. You
can't find it, but it will knock before you when you least expect it to come.

It can make you the happiest soul in heaven, but don't forget that it
also can make you the most miserable person in the whole galaxy.

Contributed by: Kolleen D. Fernando

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