Tabitha, Our Sweetheart
Tabitha, Our Sweetheart
"I Love Your Brain"
Tabitha was pretty much non-verbal for the first 4 years of her development. Music made a significant change in that. She still has what I call "toddlers language". She loves to listen to Praise Music and watch Disney Singalongs. These helped in her processing her language abilities. Today , she is a BIG fan of VEGGIE TALES Videos.
"Our Turners Story"
Guilt gets laid on real big by the devil. You try to figure out what you did wrong and who is at fault! We have learned finally that noone is at fault, these things just happen. This tends to be a constant battle I have to deal with all the time. God is working on me concerning it.
We have had our struggles with the growth of Tabitha but we know that God is in control. She has been tested through the years for cardiac problem but Praise God she has had none. She has normal kidneys. She does have the height deficiency and her reproductive system is not normal. She is healthy and we are very THANKFUL. **4/99 She saw a surgeon and he sent us to a physical therapist. The therapist tells me this appears to be what is called Primary Lymphedema. We do massage therapy morning and night on her leg and foot. She wears a compressed stocking all day on just the left lower leg. Please agree with me that God will/can do a miracle.** Her swelling is now only located in her ankle/foot area. We had chosen not to give her growth hormone due to her developmental delays and autism BUT we have changed our minds. We gave her genatropen (growth hormone) and prayed she would get some height. She is now at 4'10" . Update 3-28-01....We had to stop shots due to money issues. She seems quite happy and quite the "teenager" now. High School and now working on transitioning her from School to Work. We are content with this height. She will soon begin Hormone Replacement.Inspite of these issues to deal with we are so glad we have had her. She is a blessing!
8-02 Tabitha is now a junior in high school and goes into the community to learn job skills and daily living skills. She is progressing nicely and we will begin the process that most all parents have to do with children like her -- obtaining guardianship by the time she is 18. This is a must for us as her parents. It means going before a judge. I will update later as I obtain more details on how to go about it.
2-5-03 Thought it was time for an update.....well, after 17 years they finally find she has been diagnosed with Bicuspid Aortic Valve, meaning, instead of 3 spacers in her aorta, she only has 2 therefore the BAV. We have had several suspensions this year but Behavior Intervention Plans are in place and I have brought to the districts attention the need to change thier forms to be worded more appropriately for someone like my child. They were written as if a student understands and can answer appropriately (cognitively), which is not the case for many ESE students. I have learned much from studying IDEA and contacting legal advisors in the district.
"Our Autism Story"
She'll grow out of it.Yeah right! I didn't believe them so I pursued it and pursued it with them. She was then seen by a child development doctor. Finally I found the ones who agreed with me.
She was not developing normally.They provided me with the supportive services I needed but I still had to be sure and ASK THE RIGHT QUESTIONS. It is so hard when your going through the situation to know what to ask. At 3 years old she entered a special preschool program through Child Find. She was basically non-verbal and her behaviors were difficult to manage but they worked with her and us. Thank God for
Early InterventionThe teachers fell in love with her, they taught us and we taught them how to do things to help her progress. I spent alot of time reading and calling for support and praying. Christian friends got an earful from us, but family was the most supportive. She is now in a multi-varying exceptionalities classroom. We held her back one year in elementary due to her size and delays. Plus I was not comfortable moving her into the upper grades yet. She is now in middle school and doing surprisingly well. She is much more independent now and acting more like her age. Oh the teenage years ! Well, we are at the high school level now, 2nd year. And she is participating in Special Olympics. Last year she was chosen as "Official Athelete" for her school in the Indoor Games - bowling. We are so proud of her. Soon she will be preparing for track, fast walking again maybe as last year. 9/05 She continues to be a Special Olympian bowler and track walker. She now goes several days a week to the YMCA with us to work out to stay in shape and in good health. No more food rewards at school either. More to come.....
Update -- January 9, 2004
We just celebrated Tabitha's 18th birthday.
Tabitha is a senior this year but due to IDEA she is able to attend until she reaches 22 years of age. She will continue to attend school til then unless something causes us to change the plans. She has been receiving services through the Med Waiver program. She has a support coordinator, a behavior specialist, respite care and several services to help her integrate into the community. We are working presently on plans for transitioning her from school to work. All of this takes researching, communicating with experienced parents and her success team. There is so much more involved in raising a child with disabilities than one who is not. 10-27-04 Update- We recently spoke to a lawyer concerning guardianship. His advice was to continue as is until the need arises. He was on a medical board and says that as long as someone is taking responsibility for her bills, no one will question guardianship. He said if anyone does, then a judge will first look at the parents and see that our family is the best choice for her and appoint us without us having to go through a long costly legal process.
I hope my updates are helpful to others. Some things I do not type because they are rather personal and she is showing signs of understanding allot more than we give her credit for and she deserves privacy. I am willing to discuss more things in email with anyone who wants to contact me.
Update -- Sept. 14, 2005
I have been an active member of the Prolife Organization and still continue
to support them. We are firm believers that God knew us before we were
formed(Jeremiah 1:5). I would like to encourage all those who have been
told that they are carrying a child who may, have this or may have that
wrong, consider carrying the baby(fetus) to full term. There are so many
people out there wanting to adopt. What is 9 months? Please consider others
needs above yourself. I cannot imagine anyone aborting a child like mine.
There are other alternatives.
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