Single and Looking...
It'll take a ~Strong~ man to be able to sit back and view me with patience and humor - one who knows when to let me tromp on off, and knows when to lasso me back in and swat my fanny. I need a man who is able and willing to "keep me in line" while still "allowing" me to feel independant. While I do believe in, and support, the traditional relationship, I am Not looking to be dominated. Rather, I am looking for my "counterbalance". The one who compliments me as I will compliment him.
I'm fairly traditional, even boarderline conservative, though I do have a bit of a wild side in private with my partner. I enjoy sex and like being playful - laughter is an important aspect of intimacy. Mom always told me that good sex is Very Important for a Healthy relationship, but it's Not the Most important thing. Respect - how you treat each other, stand up for each other, work together and laugh together is Most important... passion and chemistry are just Big Pluses. Another Big Plus would be a man who keeps me feeling safe and protected...
Like so many people, I have my hopes and dreams of the "Perfect" relationship for me - for the "Us" of a Couple. But, like lots of others out there - it continues to elude me. I realize that no relationship is perfect – ANY relationship requires Daily attention. There will be moods, rants, moments of insanity. But there will also be caring, sharing, tenderness, cooperation, and – Most Importantly – Love. This is all part of being human and all is anticipated, expected and looked forward to. I want to make a very special man as happy as possible, want to share my life and be a part of his.
I am Fiercely Loyal and wear my heart on my sleeve. I respect and practice monogamy - infidelity is not an option in my belief system. I believe that intimacy is emotional, spiritual and physical, and covers a wide range of interactions. Unfortunately, my emotions can rule my decisions and I'll tend to make "poor" on-the-spot choices as a result. I acknowledge when I'm wrong, just don't make me pay for it.
I'm not a "clingy" type of gal, so I don't "need" 24/7. While I believe quality time together & common interests are important to a healthy relationship, I also realize that as adults, we have established responsibilities, friends and interests, that vie for our attentions. With that in mind, I do look forward to being Included In, Not Excluded from, someone's life.
Some things that I long for… to come home, and as I approach, to see that familiar vehicle in the driveway… to feel my pulse quicken, get giddy with the anticipation of a reunion - the magic and romance and fireworks and That Tickle in my heart.... To feel safe and secure… to know that, no matter what comes, it will be easier simply cuz we’re together. Lazy Sunday mornings in bed… working on a home together… bike rides, interesting walks, day trips… fights and fusses and making up… all the shared things that couples go through, the things that bring them closer together, things that I want, and am willing to work for.
There's a lot of men, and women, out there who partner with someone, then treat them like crap, and it just makes me sick. Sometimes I feel like I'm paying the price of those horrible people. I'm not capable of using a man to get what I want... it's not how I was raised and not how I want to be treated myself, so I'm not able to do that to someone else. My parents have shown me how a Real relationship should work.
At our age, we've ALL been hurt At Least once, some of us many more times. And I don't believe that Any of us want to be hurt again. I get kinda tired of hearing "I've been hurt in the past, so...". To use that as an excuse to not explore a relationship is just not valid for me.
I'm not interested in games, or being coy. I've had enough chats, enough "first dates". I wasted enough of my life in holding back, being afraid to take a chance. If something feels right to me, I see no point in not pursuing the possibilities. I don't want to have regrets over something I passed over, something that might have been. I don't have much patience in general, and lord knows I have absolutely No patience for head games - life is just too short.
I've been told that it seems I want to "move fast". Well, it's not about "moving fast", I'm not wanting to hurry and get married - not that I Wouldn't want to settle down, just not simply for the sake of settling down. I Am however, wanting to hurry and see if there's interest, compatability, commonality - and other reasons that make the pursuit of a relationship worthwhile. It shouldn't take months to figure out if you want to date someone.
I'm not looking for drama. I don't want to struggle for a relationship, I'm tired of that. I've had my fill of the players, the cheaters and the men who don't know what they want. What I seek is simple - I want someone special to share mutual respect, and enjoy good times with. Someone with a good outlook, a decent job, a great sense of humor, one who likes the inner person I am and is supportive of the outer person I'd like to be. Why is that so difficult to find...?
January 02, 2005
Homepage