| The power... The man you really want to date wants your best friend. Or, your boyfriend dumps you out of the blue for some dumb reason, or worse, no apparent reason at all. Or, your dream guy, the guy that encompasses the things you find important in a significant other, deems you too repulsive to hang on his arm. So, of course, you're feeling upset, hurt, and some other negative emotions. But then, after a period of weeks or months, you're still upset and bitter, while the man that screwed you over is having the time of his life, probably with some girl that has no clue what kind of person she's with. You feel that you're pathetic, but you don't feel like you can get over him. I do not claim to possess quick, easy answers. I've been in a few situations that were similar to the scenarios mentioned above, and it took me a while to get over them. I am still dealing with some of the emotions that I experienced and wounds that were inflicted during these situations. However, there comes a point in life when you have to assess the situation and begin to heal. You must process those emotions, which may include (but not limited to): jealously hatred anger bitterness powerlessness low self-image hopelessness inferiority As these feelings are processed, it is important to be infused with God's truth about you: Psalm 139 Genesis 1:26-27 (more coming) It is important to internalize these truths, because no matter what others tell you about how unimportant the situations should be to you and how it is wrong to let such "trivial" things bother you, in reality the situations are real and the emotions are real, and should be dealt with accordingly, Also, there must be an understanding that ultimately, what is most important is what God thinks and feels about you. This process may take time, and that is okay. Also, you need to trust the Lord with the areas of your life that may be screwed up, including your "love life." Proverbs 3:5 says, "Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding." And remember too, there are other fish in the sea, and although there are many that aren't worth your time, there are others that are much more mature. It is important to trust God that this is true. If you desire to bei in a relationship, it's probably a feeling God gives you, and when He wants it to happen, He'll allow it to happen. You just need to put your trust in Him. revised December 2003 |
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