Dear Auntie MJ,
You’re so lucky to have met someone like Lori!  How can I find a significant other who will accept my crossdressing?  The last girl I told (after 3 months of dating) called me a pervert and walked out on me.
Lonely Lisa

Dear Lisa,
First of all, don’t give up in your search - but don’t go crazy if you don’t get any positive results right away.   If you haven’t already, consider placing an ad on-line, and get a letter and picture published in a transgender magazine such as Lady Like or Transformation.  Chances are that hanging out at a gay/lesbian or transgender bar is not going to work, but try it anyway.  When you start dating someone (who is unaware of your crossdressing) try to find a way to tell her as soon as possible about your habits.  This serves two purposes - one, your emotional involvement will not have peaked yet, and two, women detest being lied to.  If she doesn’t run away immediately after you tell her, then you have a chance.  A support group, such as Tri Ess’s SPICE, may help her come to an understanding of who you are.  If you haven’t joined a support group such as Tri Ess yet, consider it - one of the members may know just the right (genetic) girl for you!

MJ