I was first introduced to BDSM in my late 20’s. It opened my eyes to something I knew was inside me but was unable to identify at the time. Over the next few years I became more and more involved with D/s and found that was where I was most comfortable.
Twenty plus years in the Lifestyle has brought me successes as well as failures, but each experience has lead me to a better understanding of who it was that I really wanted to be within myself. I am reliable, reasonable, intelligent and an individual that others feel comfortable with. I am energetic, respectable, self-sufficient, and have a passion for the Lifestyle. I have worked diligently molding my dominant character and although not perfect, I believes I have learned my lessons well and am now Master of myself...
I am now living in Sydney after returning from a 2 year visit to the USA. I am attempting to recover from a devastating series of events that included personal injury, a house fire and a betrayal of trust from one that I was assisting.
I am a fair and understanding dominant, but along with that I am also firm. I enjoy this lifestyle and all that it has given to me. I assist those that wish to learn and grow within themselves, providing an outlet for them to experience the fulfillment of their desires. I also like to assist other dominants with their exploration of new kinds of play. The learning curve never ends.
How I identify myself:
I see myself as a Dominant with a sensual if somewhat sadistic streak. I enjoy both D/s dynamics. But pain-sensation play, in and of itself is not for me. While I do enjoy simple scenes, the D/s dynamic is a necessary part of a truly satisfying experience. For instance, given the choice between (say) whipping someone who is not interested in the D/s dynamic and having someone serving (submitting to) me who isn't into pain play, I would choose the service every time.
What I look for in a submissive:
When I am looking for a submissive female for a power-exchange relationship I am not in search of only a play partner. Ultimately, I seek a total power exchange, but it is my feeling that such relationships should not be entered into casually so I insist on progressing at a pace that is comfortable for all involved. Ideally, I would prefer someone who has at least some real time experience and someone who understands the challenges, responsibilities and rewards of real life ownership. That said, I am also very willing to assist someone that is exploring themselves and the desires they feel.
Physical appearance is not very important to me,. Location is less important as you would need to be prepared to relocate as the relationship progresses. I am flexible and able to compliment most situations. Age and education is not a contributing factor. A genuine desire to serve and a willingness to learn and grow is. Those that wish to explore their desires are welcome, providing that exploration is honest and with sincerity.
What I do not negotiate on:
I am not personally interested in men(I am hetro-sexual).
I am not interested in purely cyber or phone relationships.
I do not cyber or send photos containing pornography over the internet.
What I expect in a submissive:
I am not seeking a "do me" girl and she needs to realize that a Dom is not there to please her or to make her every fantasy a reality. She needs to have a true desire to serve and to gain the approval of a sincere man who she can respect and trust. Her focus should be on pleasing her Master and not on "getting done." She needs to be a giver, not a taker. She needs to understand that real life service involves real work and real submission and be firmly rooted in that reality.
As a submissive, she should gain pleasure from pleasing her Master. She should not be one to do something merely for the show of it or in order to get attention from others. Don't be a drama queen. Don't be an attention-seeking black hole that will drain me of life. Have the ability to integrate a power-exchange relationship with vanilla life.
I want a submissive flexible in her preferences.
"Okay, I don't mean to come across like I am looking for a perfect person or anything. I’m not!!! I will consider training or advising any that genuinely want assistance or advice. I don't want you to think I’m just going to lay down a bunch of demands without expecting to give, either."
What I have to offer:
I have much to offer the right submissive and much to bring to a relationship. I am a good listener and do not expect my girl to be invulnerable to what happens in real life. I am nurturing and stabilizing, functioning as a friend as well as a Master. With patience I guide and teach my submissive to be everything she can be! I am usually active in my local community, I hope to be so again in the near future.
My feelings on negotiation and the "Safe Sane Consensual" creedo are somewhat non-mainstream. By no stretch of the imagination could they be called Politically Correct. I am turned off by over-negotiation and am more comfortable with the phrase "Risk Aware".
Hard Limits:
Absolutely no kids (minors).
Absolutely no activity with non-consenting persons.
Absolutely no scat.
No play that results in or puts anyone at risk of serious bodily harm.
No play that requires a trip to the emergency room.
No play that results in the need to be on long term medication.
No broken bones, amputations and internal injuries.
The vanilla me:
I am a university graduate with a degree in psychology. I had my own practice for about 10 years when I decided to redirect my attentions and concentrate my efforts entirely within the lifestyle that I have embraced as my own for this is truely where I am meant to be.
I am opinionated, independent, flexible and emotionally stable.
I don't have much emotional baggage and have a healthy attitude about what I do carry around with me.
I prefers activity to inactivity.
I usually create and sell a range of Lifestyle related quality leather goods and play room furniture.
I am well traveled and my life has been extremely interesting and rich in experience thus far.
I can size up an atmosphere quickly and fit in just about anywhere.
I am extremely flexible, adaptable and am an incorrigible optimist.
I base my value system on logic and empathy.
I have a good head on my shoulders and am good at solving problems.
There is no place for religion in my life, but I never forget the human component and am an extremely spiritual man.
My basic tenent in dealing with others is to treat them the way I would want to be treated.
I have an extremely dry and sharp sense of humor. What would life be without laughter?
There is always more to discover and learn.
Want to know more ?
I guess you will just have to email me.
Be well, be safe and enjoy.
Lex Adams
Email: Lexx_aa@yahoo.com.au
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