I first started reading the books of John Norman about 15 years ago and my active interest in Gor and thing Gorean grew to the point where I became as involved as was possable in a real sense nearly seven years ago. I have read 25 of the books,(#26 was published just a few months ago). I was a member of the Gorean Whispers mailing and discussion list in its early days and I was a moderator in an online discussion chat room for those interested in real life Gor. I also for a time had an online Gor training room. So one could presume that I have had a reasonable amount of experience when it comes to my knowledge of Gor and the philosophies thereof.
I distanced myself from online Gor simply because where ever I went I found people barstardizing Gor to suit themselves and many that claimed to be of Gor hadnt even read one book. Silk colours are often made a badge of rank or a steping stone in a slaves development with exams to attain a higher degree of silk. What a load of unadulterated crap. Silk colours had but one purpose and that was to denote a girls state of openess hence the White and Red, but that is far from the case online. There is also way to much in the way of politics involved for me to be bothered with. I have better things to do with my time than argue with someone that knows not their elbow from their ass, as they proved whenever they sit behind a keyboard. So I took my beliefs that were based on the books and nothing else and I went my own way. I may be right or I may be wrong but real life Gor is not the fantasy role play that is practiced online , nor is it anything to do with the realities of BDSM. To me Gor is a form of Domination and submission that is most closely termed Formal D/s or the older style of D/s, yes there are punishments and discipline involved just as there are in Gor but BDSM play is not included in a routine way as a part of what is practiced. (Although some "Gorean" Masters do practice BDSM and incorporate it into their lives).
Formal D/s is a regulated and regimented way of life that resembles Gor but with the fantasy elements removed. Many people try to take those fantasy elements into real life only to be dissapointed time after time. They just do not translate into our society in any way. (sure I park my tarn on the back patio, and dont we all kill slaves that are extremely displeasing).
Now where is all this leading, simply put it is leading to who I have developed into over the years, (gawd knows what I will evolve into in the future). As you can see by this web site I am an advocate for the ideology of "SSC" that is bandied about in the lifestyle in general. I have seen many abuses and injuries over the years and have heard of countless others, so I believe in Safety, Safety and more safety. I ran a professional dungeon in the past as well as a safe house for those abused in the lifestyle, I also had a training school for submissives and conducted mentoring courses for dominants. I will do so again in the near future and plans are now under way to establish a facility in Sydney. I also hand craft a lot of the tools that BDSMers use in their play including most things leather and "play" furniture etc.
I believe in education within the lifestyle and practice tollerance of others, simply put just because I do things that you dont, that doesnt make me right and you wrong, mearly different. I have learnt about many types of play that I personally dont get a kick out of but I persevered because I wanted to further my knowlege and be able to demonstrate in a safe and controlled way what I had learnt. Hopefully my efforts have made me a better teacher. I have a psychology background and I believe that true dominance stems from within the mind and the very being of a person just as true submission comes from deep within. Each one of us has a right to be who we need to be within ourselves and we have a right to seek the fulfillment of our desires.
Remember that there are as many varients of BDSM (Bondage/Discipline - Domination/submission - Sado/masochism). as there are participants, who is right or who is wrong. None are wrong, just plainly different. from the weekend warrior that just likes to play a little now and then to the diehard extreme sadist. All are right. We need to practice tolerance for others who have a differing point of view and a different approach to the kink that we try to "pidgeon-hole" under the BDSM umbrella. I know that some will disagree, (why should my point of view be accepted as the "be all and end all" hmmmm), but I believe that what we do should be inherently safe, we should stop short of causing real injury and lasting, physical and psychological trauma. Sure we cause pain and also mental trauma to some degree for the play requires the "mind fuck" at times, where would we be without it. But the line needs to be drawn somewhere,(for me anyway).
I am one of those doms that believes in consensual slavery, of having someone submit to me as totally as they can. Sure I "play" and do other things but who I am carries through into all facets of my life and the lives of those that serve me. These pages best describes my ideal. Who knows it may be yours as well.
In closing, there is much information "out there" about what it is that we do. Take what you have a feel for and enjoy then leave the rest to someone else.
Be well, be safe and enjoy.
Lex
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