Melanie Robinson's Speech

As Julie's sister and Mat's sister in law, I would like to say a few words on behalf of my mum and dad and our extended family.

10 years ago, Julie went out in town to celebrate the 18th birthday of her friend, Jenny. The next morning, my mum asked her if she'd had a good time. “It was great," she said " I met this lovely boy. He said he'd phone me but I bet he doesn't." But of course, he did. A few weeks later Julie brought Mat home to meet us. He lit up our home and he lighted up our lives ever since.

When Mat was around the mood was always buoyant. We shared many happy family occasions together. He was the most genial of hosts. He cooked us (and I'm sure most of this congregation) some truly stunning meals. He was clever, he was funny, he was interested in everybody and everything. With those big shining eyes, he would tell us of the latest project he had on the go. His enthusiasm was contagious - when Mat was there you believed anything was possible...even that Newcastle United could win the Premiership.

Yet Mat was also sensitive and dignified. He had immense love and respect for his family. He had a great awareness of the needs of those around him. He listened, and he offered wonderful advice. When my mum was very ill, Mat provided so much love, support and practical help to all of us, despite being on the other side of the world. He was an inspiring role model. Mat's goddaughter, my little girl, Isobel, tells all of her friends, that when she grows up she's going to be a doctor like her Uncle Mat.

But far above all of these things, was Mat's love for Julie. It knew no bounds. They were the most perfect couple. They were soul mates. Despite both being so sociable and having so many friends, their most treasured moments and memories were when they were alone.

As Julie's family, we are so proud that she has found the inner strength to organise this day, to make it everything Mat would have wanted, despite the most tragic of circumstances. Many of you here heard the horrifying news of Mat's death from Julie herself - she was determined to make as many of those difficult calls as she could. She did it for Mat.

There will be dark days, months, and years ahead for Julie. Never hesitate to give her a call, keep in touch. What is keeping her going is the immense love and great companionship of people here and the literally hundreds of wonderful stories they have already shared about Mat.

Some people walk right over your heart. Some people stay in your heart forever. The unique Doctor Mathew Philip Thoppil, may you rest in peace.