LOVE It is a kind, long sufering, not envious nor proud among other things. It bears, believes and endures all things. It never fails. It is the reciepe and cocktail of great joy and happiness. This thing called love is sought by people from all walks of life, rich or poor. It brings people together reguardless of thier colour or creed. It is the universal languege. There are usual and ideal qualities that most people will sight as attractive in a person. These attributes includes personality, kindness, carering just to mention a few. Looks also do play thier part, however, I believe small. Physical attributes such as hieght and body build, have often come up as issues for some people. Some have said they fall for someone because they are striking ( which is not to say they are beautiful or handsome) at first sight. For me it was not a quastion of what she wore, or what her face face looked like, it was just this, something that struck me on the very first day we met and I knew in my heart, I really love her. I felt like its a promise of heaven on earth and I believed I could search the world over and never find anyone like her. I believe love is that thing that makes you bubbly inside when you think of someone, that thing that makes you long to be with him/her more than anyone else. The thing that makes you disregard your father's sentiments about how the world feels about your partner. For those in love, as I said before LOVE lasts foverever, it endures all hardships and conqures all oppositions. It is the road to heaven. But what put off the burning fire of love which seems to be working out just fine??? For young boys, love is a funny thing. When I was young and love someone deeply it was difficult for to understand why the other person doesn't feel the same way towards me. Its one of life's lessons you have to learn. There is nothing you can do to make this girl love you other than be friendly towards her . It seems that she wants to be your friend. You are morely to lose her friendship if you put pressure on her to give you more than she wants to. You are young and even though you thing she is the only girl in the world , you will meet someone one day who will love you back. Me, I did find one. Believe you me, experience is the best teacher. One day, someone will love you and you will enjoy your life. 1 FAITH. There are too many reasons why people cheat their parttners, but I believe the most concrete one its one for the genes. Its an uncertain urge which needs to be stroked, an addiction to the admiration of the opposite sex, the lust for adventure and challange. This is most common in the teen age. For women its simple - most of them want to ensure their chilndren get the best possible genes and a father who can look after them. But few men fulfil both requirements. A good looking man might be genetically ideal, but he doesn't want to be tied down supporting a family. The woman wants both types of men, so she is tempted to marry one and keep the other as a boy-friend. Her genetic urges are subconcious so she is not aware of them "just like a donkey, dogs or lions - the female one goes for the winning mate because she knows its the best breeding material". A good lesson guys, try to imitate both types of man, and I guess you might not be cheated. Don't forget that the contracts also include the four C's - carrier, cash, car and cellphone. 2 Compromise. The love that should exists between couples would have been compromised from the beginning. Hardly do you find couples that are growing old these days. To me it means people would have married for the wrong reasons, or they would have mistaken their feelings - inffactuation for love, then it wears off with time. If couples come together for physical attraction alone, this is bound to backfire. People are like machines they 'wear and tear' with age. If people do not take their time to get to know each other long enough, they would later discover things they do not like about each other when already deep in the relationship and this could spoil it. But when does one say they know someone enough?? 3 Distance. Distance from each other can be a cocktail of disaster because while it is said that absence makes the heart to fonder, that kind of absence where people live far apart could be tricky. Your partner is bound to get closer to people he/she interacts with on a day-to-day basis and gradually fade you into a mare memory. Anyway, I guess true love is beyond any definition. It is a mystery. Only people involded really know what brought and keep them together. By Martin Dingwa.