place".
42. Keep photos or mementos in storage rather than display them
because your abuser doesn't like them.
43. Isolate yourself from all people other than your abuser.
44. Allow friendships with people your abuser dislikes to wither away.
45. Visit or call family less and less because your abuser dislikes them.
46. Spend less time with friends, family, or co-workers because it "takes too much time".
47. Never go anywhere without your abuser.
48. Conceal your abuser's behavior from others.
49. Believe that others "wouldn't understand" why a situation or
behavior is "justified".
50. Are embarrassed that you allow yourself to be treated this way.
51. Have been asked or coerced by your abuser to not tell.
52. Are afraid of being accused of "making them look bad".
53. Take responsibility for things that are not your responsibility.
54. "Help" resolve other people's conflicts by acting as mediator
55. Apologize for things that OTHER people did.
56. "Cover" for people who are not handling their own responsibilities.
57. Accept more than your fair share of blame in a conflict.
58. Apologize just so that the fight will end, not because you think
you did something wrong.
59. Fix, clean up, or conceal something done by someone else to avoid
being accused of having done it.
60. Attraction to authority figures.
61. Attracted to the smart, self-confident, powerful people.
62. Attempt to prove your worth to them.
63. Are thrilled if they "bother" to notice you.
64. Assume that their advice is sound.