My DH, Wayne, and I were married back in October of 1998. We thought that we would spend at least the first year to year and a half together learning about each other before beginning a family of our own. Little did we know how hard it would be! We began like every other newlywed couple trying to concieve and mind you it was enjoyable! But after 6 months of nothing happening, I went to my GYN to see if maybe the depo provera shots I had taken for birth control had screwed me up. As the Dr. went over my tests, I sat there in a daze. I had unexplained infertility. Now, you might say well that it could be worse. I could have had endometriosis or fibroids. But that would mean I had SOMETHING rather than nothing. I tried to take it all in as he dialed a friend of his in the infertility business, Dr. Keltz. Infertility. It doesn't sounds as harsh when you believe you can concieve naturally like everyone else. But when you become one of those who needs assistance it does something to you. I felt like half a woman. Like I could not give my DH the one thing others took for granted. He didn't see it that way though. Wayne was a wonderful supprt beam for me as we went to the city to meet this Dr. and discuss our options. Aside from being overweight, Dr. Keltz saw no reason I should not be pregnant by the end of the year. I think I may have even smiled as I hugged him goodbye before setting up our first of many appointments. We tried IUI unassisted, meaning no meds, three times. And each one we got our hopes up only to be dashed down again. I decided that I needed to take a break and try to relax. "Try to relax"..... why do people tell you this when they find out you are aiming for a baby? "Don't think about it and it will happen"..... this has to be my favorite. Usually said by those who have two or more young ones climbing over and through everything. Apparently they didn't have a problem trying to do anything...... I began to resent going to baby showers and christenings. DH tried everything. From makig dinners and planning nights out to extra cussle times while watching a movie. He broched the subject of going back to Dr. Keltz after a few months and I begrudgingly mumbled fine.