WHAT IS IT?
PHYSICAL - SEXUAL - SOCIAL - FINANICIAL -
ENVIRONMENTAL - EMOTIONAL
WHEN ANY OF THE FOLLOWING HAPPEN.
KICKING - PUNCHING - PINCHING - PULLING - PUSHING - SLAPPING -
HITTING - SHAKING - CUTTING - BURNING - SQUEEZING -
TWISING ARMS OR LEGS - THROWING HER - SPITTING ON HER -
HITTING HER WITH OBJECTS - RESTRAINGING HER IN ANYWAY -
KNIFING - SHOOTING -
THREATENING TO KILL HER OR INJURE HER -
IGNORING HER ILLNESS OR INJURIES OR ANY MEDICAL NEED -
DENYING OR RESTRICTING HER FOOD OR DRINKS -
PRESSURING OR TRICKING HER INTO ALCOHOL OR DRUG USE -
INTIMIDATION - HIDING OR WITHHOLDING HER
NECESSARY MEDICATIONS.
ANY UNWANTED SEXAUL CONTACT - FORCING HER TO HAVE SEX -
FORCING HER TO SHAVE HER PUBIC HAIR -
MAKING THREATS TO OBTAIN SEX -
BODILY ATTACKS BEFORE, DURING OR AFTER SEX (EX: HITTING, SLAPPING, ETC.) - FORCING SEX WHEN SHE IS SICK, RIGHT AFTER CHILDBIRTH, OR OPERATION - CRITIZING HER SEXUAL ABILITIES -
CALLING HER NAMES SUCH AS WHORE, SLUT, BITCH -
DEGRADING HER BODY PARTS -
SLEEPING AROUND ON HER -
KNOWINGLY TRANSMITTING A SEXUAL DISEASE -
SEXUAL JOKES - SEXUAL PRANKS -
DEMANDING SEX AS PAYMENT OR TRADE -
ADMINISTERING DRUGS OR ALCOHOL FOR SEXUAL ADVANTAGES -
INSISTING OR CHECKING HER BODY FOR SEXUAL CONTRACTS
CONTROLLING WHAT SHE DOES, WHO SHE SEES, WHO SHE TALKS TO, WHAT SHE READS, WHERE SHE GOES, HOW SHE TALKS OR
IF SHE MAY SPEAK. WHAT SHE WEARS -
DICTATING HER BEHAVIOR -
PUTS DOWNS OR IGNORING HER IN PUBLIC OR IN FRONT OF OTHER PEOPLE OR FAMILY MEMBERS -
NOT ALLOWING HER ACCESS TO FAMILY AND FRIENDS -
HABITALLY CHOOSING HIS FRIENDS AND ACTIVITIES OVER HER -
MAKING A SCENE IN PUBLIC -
MAKING HER ACCOUNT FOR HERSELF -
CENSORING HER MAIL, PHONE CALLS, TIME SPENT OUTSIDE THE HOUSE OR AWAY FROM HIM -
TREATING HER LIKE A SLAVE -
NOT GIVING HER PRIVACY -
( USING CHILDREN)
ASSAULTING HER IN FRONT OF THE CHILDREN -
EMBRASSING OR DEGRADING HER IN FRONT OF THE CHILDREN -
THREATING TO ADBUCT THE CHILDREN OR TELLING HER SHE WILL NEVER GET CUSTODY OR THE CHILDREN - TREATING TO KILL THE CHILDREN IF SHE TRIES TO LEAVE -
PUTTING DOWN HER PARENTING ABILITIES
(USING RELIGION)
USING CHURCH OR BIBLE POSITION TO PRESSURE FOR SEX -
DEGRADING OR MAKING FUN OF HER FAITH -
NOT ALLOWING HER TO PRACTICE HER FAITH -
INTERPRETING RELIGION TO BENEFIT HIS WAYS
TAKING HER MONEY - WITHHOLDING MONEY -
SPENDING MONEY FOOLISHLY ON HIMSELF OR SPENDING ON HIS FRIENDS OR SPENDING BEYONDS MEANS - PRESSURING HER TO TAKE OUT LOANS OR FOR HER TO TAKE
ON FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR FINANCES - NOT PAYING BILLS AND THEN PUTTING BLAME ON HER -
IGNORING HER BIRTHDAY, ANNIVERSARY OR
OTHER SPECIAL OCCASIONS - SPENDING ON HIS ADDICTIONS -
TELLING HER WHERE SHE CAN WORK -
KEEPING THE FAMILY FINANCES A SECRET
HARMING PETS - DESTROYING HER CLOTHES OR
PERSONAL BELONGINGS -
DESTROYING FURNITURE OR HOUSEHOLD OBJECTS - LOCKIN HER OUT - SLAMMING DOORS -
THROWING OBJECTS, OR FOOD AT HER -
TAKING THE PHONE AWAY FROM HER -
CONTROLLING THE TV OR RADIO -
DRIVING VEHICLE TO FAST - DRIVING RECKLESSLY -
DRIVING INTOXICATED OR STONED -
USING HIS DRIVING TO USE THREATS OF KILLING HER -
CHASING OR HITTING HER WITH VEHICLE -
TAMPERING WITH ENGINE OR BRAKES ON HER CAR -
MAKING HER TAKE DRUGS OR ALCOHOL -
FALSE ACCUSATIONS - FINDING FAULT - NAME CALLING -
VERBAL THREATS - YELLING -
MAKING HER THINK SHE IS CRAZY OR STUPID -
JEALOUSY - DEGRADING HER - BRAINWASHING -
TURNING THE SITUATION AGAINST HER - LAUGHING IN HER FACE -
SILENCE - REFUSING TO DO THINGS FOR HER -
ALWAYS GETTING HIS OWN WAY -
NEGLECTING HER - COMPARING HER TO OTHERS -
MAKING HER FEEL GUILTY - MANIPULATION -
DEMANDING ORDERS WITH SNAPPING FINGERS, POINITNG, ETC. -
STARTING ARGUMENTS - WITH HOLDING AFFECTION -
NEVER REALLY FORGIVING, HOLDING GRUDGES -
LYING - NOT KEEPING COMMITMENTS -
NOT LETTING HER GO TO DOCTORS ALONE -
DELIBERATELY MAKING A MESS AND MAKE HER CLEAN IT UP -
PREVENT HER FROM TAKING A JOB OR
GETTING HER FIRED FROM A JOB -
NOT COMING HOME - COMING HOME DRUNK OR STONED -
POUTING, CRYING OR HAVING TEMPER TANTRUMS TO
GET HIS OWN WAY
DEPRESSION - WITHDRAWAL - ANXIETY - LOW SELF ESTEEM -
UNEXPLAINED CUTS, BRUISES OR BROKEN BONES -
FEELING OF SHAME OR GUILT -
OVERLY PASSIVE/COMPLIANT -
DELAY OR REFUSAL OF MEDICAL TREATMENT -
SOCIAL ISOLATION -
DISCOMFORT OR NERVOUSNESS AROUND PARTNER -
SUICIDE ATTEMPTS OR THOUGHTS OF SUICIDE -
SUBSTAND ABUSE -
AVOIDES EYE CONTACT
FOR SELF:
1. CALL SUPPORT CENTERS TO FIND OUT ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTION.
2. FIND OUT YOUR LEGAL RIGHTTS.
3. TALK WITH YOUR LOCAL POLICE DEPARTMENT, MOST OF THEM HAVE PHONE NUMBERS TO CRISISES CENTERS.
4. PLAN A SAFE STRATERY FOR LEAVING.
5. HELP IS AVAILABALE
6. NO ONE DESERVES TO BE ABUSED.
FOR SOMEONE YOU KNOW:
1. SUPPORT HER. BE GOOD LISTENER. ALLOW HER TO MAKE HER OWN DECISION.
2. SHARE INFORMATION ABOUT ABUSE, SHOW HER VIOLENCE HOTLINES PHONE NUMBERS. OR WHERE SHELTER ARE LOCATED IN YOUR AREA.
3. APPROACH HER IN A UNDERSTANDING WAY. NEVER BLAME HER!
TELL HER SHE IS NOT THE BLAME OR FAULT. AND NOTING SHE CAN DO OR SAY MAKES THE ABUSER'S VIOLENCE OKAY.
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