Please ...
Please don't ask me if I am over it yet,
     I'll never be over it.
Please don't tell me she is in a better place,
     She isn't here with me.
Please don't say at least she isn't suffering,
     I haven't come to terms with why she had to suffer at all.
Please don't tell me you know how I feel,
     Unless you have lost a child.
Please don't ask me if I feel better,
     Bereavement isn't a condition that clears up.
Please don't tell me at least you had her for 20 years,
     What year would you chose for your child to die?
Please don't tell me God never gives us more
     Than we can handle.
Please just say that you're sorry.
Please just say you remember my child, if you do.
Please just let me talk about my child.
Please mention my child's name.
Please ... just let me cry.
Please talk about her, talk about her gentle smile.

Share your memories of her.
Share your sadness that she has gone.
Ask me what I loved about her.
Tell me what you loved about her.
Tell me what she brought to your life.
Tell me you will miss her.
Say she was beautiful.
Say you loved her.
But please don't tell me there is nothing you can say.


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