| Lavicka says: abusers come in all shapes, sizes and sexes. Lavicka says: females as well as males have been known to abuse their partners, both physically and mentally. Beethoven nods... Lavicka says: i went through many, many websites for the information i have shared tonight. im sure there are things i have missed and things that i have very breifly mentioned Lavicka says: ive read some stories that made me cry, some that made me want to scream and many that made me went to hug those who had written them. Beethoven goes for the hugging option Lavicka says: there are far too many people out there who use the bdsm tag to cover their abusive nature and give it a welcomed label to those who honestly ebrace this lifestyle. Lavicka says: its scary Lavicka says: and its real. Lavicka says: its up to each of us to know what we are getting into and help those we call our friends. Lavicka says: and its also up to each of us to know when to get out and have the guts to do so before its too late. Sherry nods in agreement Lavicka says: have the guts to stand up for yourself and what you believe you deserve in a healthy relationship Lavicka says: id like to give you all a real, honest, eye opening figure. Beethoven exclaims: yeah! Lavicka says: that figure is 6,000,000 Lavicka says: thats how many women were abused yearly by their husbands, boyfriends or live in partners in a vanilla relationship as of 2000. Lavicka exclaims: thats one woman every 15 seconds! Beethoven says: ugh :( Lavicka says: statistics for gay, lesbian, transgender, and bdsm relationships are next to non-existent as not many have done research in this area. Lavicka says: but when you look at the statistics for vanilla relationships, those which are supposedly free of pain in any way, and then consider that pain is an essential part of many good bdsm relationships, you cant help but be alarmed at the probability of greater numbers and greater risk. Lavicka says: a risk we take every time we hook up with a new partner. Lavicka says: i dont know about you, but that makes me sick. and it makes me mad. and i think its time we did something about it. Lavicka says: educate yourselves Lavicka says: educate those around you Lavicka says: if you know, tell Lavicka says: if you suspect, try and help Lavicka says: it could be someones life Cheyain nods. Lavicka puts her notes down and looks around for questions Lavicka smiles, 'thanks for coming everyone. i hope ive given you some good information' Falina smiles Beethoven exclaims: thanks Lavicka! Falina says: nice job Cheyain says: You did indeed. |
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