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| Richard grins Lavicka says: i kinda figured :) gentlespirit grins Beethoven smiles gentlespirit asks: okay, did that help? Beethoven nods gentlespirit asks: any questions so far? Lavicka is with ya gentlespirit grins Richard says: this might be off topic, but how would you broach this to a partner? gentlespirit says: you would discuss it with them first, before doing a scene with them, to see if they are interested, or have done that sort of thing Richard says: definitely not something you surprise your partner with Beethoven exclaims: no way! gentlespirit says: or would want to do that sort of thing; it's part of the consensual I mentioned before, especially for a beginning or new play partner gentlespirit grins; right! Beethoven smiles Richard says: im thinking along the lines of a relationship with blanket consent Richard says: i would hope that stuff like this you would warn someone about beforehand Richard says: even if given that much "control" Lavicka says: it should still be something you talk about before Beethoven nods Lavicka says: at least the possibility of it gentlespirit nods; very true Lavicka flashes back on her abuse vs bdsm discussion and shudders gentlepsirit says: but then there's always the option to "push" limits just a little each time, to go a little further with something than you did the last time, or to try something new every once in awhile Richard says: like face sitting Maskman nods... step by step training and testing... finding how far something can go gentlespirit nods to Richard gentlespirit nods; yep, and like I mentioned before, there are bdsm groups all over that do classes on different things all the time, and the Society of Janus groups too Richard asks: ? gentlespirit asks: yes, richard? Richard says: its about resources, like books, to read on the subjects Richard says: i am shy and young so i dont like going to support groups in my area Beethoven was too gentlespirit says: yes, definitely. read as much as you can Lavicka isnt young and is still petrified Richard says: i feel like an outsider at the groups... funny i know Maskman says: let's go to the group for those afraid to go to groups. gentlespirit says: going to groups helps, too, but if you can't do that, then do as much reading on the subject as you can |
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