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Crimson says: If you *really* carry that "be my everything" stuff to it's logical conclusion, you get OJ

Lavicka says to Aspinara: do you think personality destines you to be monogamous or not?

Lavicka asks: or the way youre brought up?

mouse says: Well, I can attest that it's not always the way you're brought up :)

Lavicka doesnt personally know anyone who was brought up in a polyamorous household... do you think that would change how the child would grow up to think?

Aspinara says to Lavicka: Maybe a little of both... Maybe its the outside company you keep.

Aspinara says: Society can be a factor of preventing certain behavior, but it can also contribute.

Redrose says: but how children are taught to relate with other children does affect how they act as adults

Lavicka says: very true

Crimson nods

Aspinara nods to Redrose, "No Doubt."

Redrose says: and that applies to jealousy as well

Lavicka nods

Lavicka asks: do you think a person who deals with jealousy and a person who doesnt can be in a sucessful relationship?

Crimson says: My parents were/are amazingly monogamous... but they aren't jealous people either

mouse says: No.

Lavicka says to mouse: why?

Crimson says: Mighty difficult

mouse says: Because the one who doesn't deal with it at all, is evading the problem.

Lavicka asks: difficult yes.. no doubt about that... but you dont think they can work it out and go on with their lives together?

Lavicka asks: ok.. so that makes it both parties problem, doesnt it?

Lavicka says: its something they as a couple need to work on, not just the jealous person

mouse says: Yep... and if it's not dealt with by BOTH it's a major problem.

Lavicka asks: so how could we help someone deal with those kinds of issues if we dont have those problems? are they doomed for failure?

Crimson waits for a good answer to that one

mouse says: They first have to admit it's a problem.

Lavicka smiles at crimson

mouse says: And then try to figure out WHY it's a problem.

Rebecca says: But only if it is a problem.

mouse nods to Rebecca.

Lavicka asks: or should we always strive to find someone who has the same kind of relationship beliefs as ourselves?

Rebecca says: If it is a problem, be reassuring.

Lavicka says: thereby avoiding the whole problem

mouse says: Well, that certainly helps.

Rebecca says to Prophet: Baby, you're the best.

Lavicka says: well, then were getting into whether or not you can control who you love... and we all know better