FAT STUFF





Yes, I am a fat woman and have been for most of my life. I was thin for a short time between my 16th and 18th birthdays. I like to say that thin is a nice place to visit but the rent is too high. That's how I see it. The price of thiness is way too high. I can't afford to spend my life worrying about every peice of food, every pound, every inch. I am an attractive and vital young woman no matter what my size. It took me alot of years to realize this, and now that I have life is so much more enjoyable. It breaks my heart to see people wasting their time trying to fit our society's idea of what a person should look like, waiting until they are "thin" to start living. I AM FAT AND I DESERVE TO AND I WILL LIVE MY LIFE NOW!!!



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I need your help!! I want to have a cheers and jeers section of this page. If you know of a person or company who is aware and considerate of the size acceptance movement let me know.

Places such as Wendy's whose seating arragements are size friendly. No arms on the chairs or nasty booths to squeeze into. I know Wendy's has been acknowledge in other pages but I think it is worth mentioning again.

CHEERS TO:



A visitor to this site sent me the URL to About-Face stating she thought it should be added to the cheers list. I agree!! Be sure to check it out!

Long John Silver's also appears on our list in both the cheers and jeers section. A visitor to the site told me that the LJS's in (I can't remember the name of the town right now) a small Californian town has very comfy seating with table and chairs, not the horribly small booths in other LJS's

Burger King is being added to both the cheers and jeers list. Cheers to SOME of the BK franchises who have placed very sturdy table and chairs in their facilities, and not those horrible table and chairs that are attached, good old- fashioned seperated tables and chairs!!

Another contributor to our cheers and jeers list would like to send out a big cheer for THE FEMINIST WOMEN'S HEALTH CENTER in ATLANTA, GEORGIA for providing health services to women of ALL sizes!!

Our contributor thinks that MOST of the Mexican Fertility Clinics deserve a cheer for being much more size-friendly then MOST U.S. clinics.

The same contrubutor would also like to send out a great big cheer for her husband, who is supportive, loving and just an all-round great guy!! Isn't that nice!!!

The Kennedy Center, Washington, D.C. - About the Kennedy Center: Sometimes we remember the negitive side of things more readily then the postive. I put the Kennedy Center on my jeers list for the rudeness of the phone operators (which another visitor to my site had no trouble with)but I neglected to mention that the box seats were very wide and roomy. Another visitor to my site reminded me of this. I apologize!!

A vistor to my page thought that FREDRICK'S OF HOLLYWOOD should be included on my cheers list because they offer an extensive plus size collection that fits great and is very stylish.

ABC'S NEWSMAGAZINE 20/20 for their feature titled fit and fat. In the feature they made the point that fat people can be fit. They interviewed a 200+ lbs (I think she was over 250, but I'm not sure)aerobic instructor who specialized in classes for fat people. They also talked with a 300 lb man who had his own cable workout show. It's about time!!

WENDY'S Dave Thomas for President.

GREAT WOODS, MA. I have attended two or three concerts at Great Woods and have always been treated with dignity and respect when asking about the seating. They even arranged for a folding chair to be available to me for my comfort. Thanks.

THE ORPHEUM THEATER, MA. I never made it to the event I had planned on attending but I e-mailed the theater with my concerns about seating and they responded quickly and even told me who specifically to talk to about the situation. Thanks to the Orpheum.

JEERS TO:



Bally's Fitness Center - is added to our jeers list due to the unfriendly atmosphere that was experienced by a visitor to my site.

Long John Silver's has been added to our jeers list for having unfat friendly seating in some of their establishments. Their seating is not only uncomfortable for large people but also for tall people. The booths are tight even for a man of 225 lbs and 6' 2".

Burger King is on the jeers listed also because, as one of my visitors pointed out to me, SOME of their facilities still have very small booths. Even people under 300 lbs have trouble fitting into them!!

I have been told that Tennesse State University deserves a jeer for not provding fat-friendly seating. I have to note that I believe most educational facilities are guilty of this.

Our contributor sends out a big jeer to MOST of the fertility clinics in the U.S. - MOST of them have weight limits.

One visitor to my page would like to send out a big jeer to GREAT AMERICA AMUSEMENT PARK in California, not only were the rides too small, but the ride operators were extremely insensitive.

I recieved another jeer from a visitor to the site. This one goes out to the LANE BRYANT company for bad customer service and shoddy merchandise.

A vistor to my page feels that DISNEYLAND deserves to be jeered due to the size of the rides, and the many turnstiles throughout the park. If there is one thing that BBPeople hate, it's turnstiles!!!!

THE KENNEDY CENTER, Washington, D.C. My husband had called to find out about the seating and was told "if she can't fit into the seats it is not our fault."

FIRST FOR WOMEN MAGAZINE -- See my fatnews page

CBS'S NEWSMAGAZINE 48 HOURS -- See above



CLICK HERE to go to my fatnews page. Which includes stories about a news program promoting surgery for weight loss and First For Women's ideas on how to drop 10lbs without dieting.



My worst experience as a fat person

I have so many worst experiences as a fat person that it was difficult to choose just one. But I honestly believe that breaking my ankle had to be the worst. Before I discuss the what happened I need to give some background information as to who and where I was at that time.

It was June of 1993. So much has happened since then. So much has changed, especially me. I am a totally different person now. In 1992 I was diagnosed with a bipolar disorder and clinical depression. I had to leave my job as a certified nursing assistant in a pediatric nursing home. I was such a mess. I was undergoing intensive therapy along with medication, but finding the correct medications for chemical imbalances is a long and frustrating road. The most common drug in treating bipolar disorders, lithium did not work for me. The only thing it succeeded in doing was increasing my appetite triple fold. Finally, after months of trying medication after medication we found one that seem to work (at least for a while).

Slowly I was making progress. My moods were fragile and unpredictable. The slightest thing could send me into the depths of despair. At that time my two favorite words were I'm sorry. I thought everything was my fault. My husband had a bad day, it was my fault. The cat had a bad day, it was my fault. The deficit, you guessed it my fault. Well, so that's were I was mentally. Shaky.

One day my husband and I were at a friends house. Somehow I fell down the three concrete stairs leading to the house, landing face first. Immediately the pain began. There was no way I was getting up on my own power. My friend came running out, my friend who weighs about 90 lbs. after a torrential downpour. Then my husband came. He is 6 foot 2 and weighs 140. I wasn't going anywhere. The only thing I could think of was how the ambulance attendants would react when they saw me. I was 425 lbs at the time laying at the foot of three stairs. What would they say.

When the ambulance arrived the attendant came over and asked in a very annoyed voice how much I weighed. I realize he had to ask to ensure his and his partners safety but a little bit of tact or compassion would have been nice. Upon hearing my answer the attendant said something like oh my god, we better call for help. I felt like a piece of crap, and what was the first thing out of my mouth, you guessed it, I'M SORRY. The attendant then told me I would have to move to the stretcher by myself. If I remember correctly never once did he unwrap my ankle to take a look.

Once the firemen arrived and placed me in the ambulance, things got worse. The attendant so kindly informed me that I needed to lose. After scolding me for not being on a weight loss program he told me of some good programs. Still, not even a peek at my ankle.

My experience at the hospital was not much better. The doctor who saw me was in major rush to leave. I believe she had a hot date waiting. The miniskirt and fishnet stockings were a big indication. Her conclusion: a sprained ankle. Her treatment: crutches (which were almost impossible for me to use and an air splint which did not fit around my leg. We had to use my husband's belt to secure it.) Her advise: Follow up with orthopedics.

After two weeks of immeasurable pain, a trip to my doctor, and a trip to an orthopedic surgeon, my diagnosis was TWO ball joint fractures. I was casted and on crutches for almost twelve weeks. Three years later I still have to wear a brace and hi cut sneakers everyday.

When I look back at that situation I think of how I would handle it if it had happened now. I would not tolerate being treated like that. I would demand the respect that I deserve. I hope that my story will help others realize that they do not have to take such disrespectful treatment, from anyone.



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