As a Mother of 3 wonderful children I have become intimately aware of the incredible changes a body experiences in the birthing process. From the physical changes and complaints of pregnancy to the weeks postpartum, a woman and her family encounters countless adaptations in there lives, homes and future goals.
Unfortunately the upcoming event of birth is often overshadowed by our fears, concerns and self doubt. What little confidence we did have in our ability to birth naturally is sabotaged by people telling there own horror stories of labor and delivery. Like any good drama, the tale with the most unusual course of events replays in our head long after those of peaceful, tender births have been forgotten. However, each of us has our own experiences or ideas on childbirth and ultimately it is our choice whether we prepare ourselves for a birth that most genuinely reflects our ideals or concede to endure whatever may occur.
When society has resolved to no longer tolerate births that are accompanied by high intervention, autonomy, and statistical norms a Doulas role will be modified to that of only physical and emotional support. But until that time a Doula is a source of information, comfort techniques, physical, emotional and family support plus so much more. We aim not only to shield the woman from unnecessary interference but strive to empower them to make choices that are right for them and their birth.
Being that labor and delivery is as individual as the children we birth, it is never a place for a Doula to bring in her own opinions on pain management or medical procedures. We must act in a professional manner supporting the choices that are made, offering assistance and alternatives when appropriate and information as desired. Having a effective support system may enable some women to be more confident in making choices that satisfy their personal wishes for the type of birth desired. Determining the course of events and how they affect her baby should always be the woman’s right. She should not feel intimidated by the medical team but secure enough to speak up and let them know what is or is not acceptable for her family. Although it is never my intention to act as her voice, I do serve to make it louder.
In conclusion I would like to state that regardless of age, status, religion or other differentiating factors the event of birth unites all Mothers. It alters our perspective on life and gives us the ability to share our nurturing spirit with a new being. I realize that nothing else I will ever achieve will be as fulfilling as being a Mother.