Class begins.
1. Teeth: While there’s probably no need to mention this to the more sophisticated ladies here, I felt it necessary to point this out to the novices at another forum. While it is fine to gently nibble and “possess” the cock with your teeth, NEVER grate. Imagine it as a popsicle in your mouth, and you have sensitive teeth. Practice on you own finger first.
2. Look him in the eyes as much as possible; this makes the experience much more intimate and personal, and shows you desire to please Him, that you’re not just performing a sex act.
3. Start off slowly, focusing on the tip, then gradually bringing more and more inside your mouth. At first leave him wanting you to swallow more…teasing heats his desire.
4. Alternate the in-mouth time with long, slow licks up and down the shaft, as well as flicking and circling the head with your tongue. Pretend you are licking an envelope with long licks, then make it an ice cream cone you enjoy with more forceful licks. Then become a kitty lapping cream…quick, short licks of hunger. Analogies like this add variety to your technique.
5. At some point, look him in the eye and suck on the tip like it's a baby bottle, then suddenly take it deep inside your mouth, the first time you take it in all the way (if you can). This move will surprise him and make him gasp.
6. While you are taking him inside your mouth, vary the speed and depth, and don't let your tongue rest -- swirl it around the tip and shaft. Variety of technique is all important, as each change of move keeps him off-guard and under your spell.
7. Sounds: A very important aspect often overlooked. When you are in control (moving your head upon him), make "mmmm" sounds like it tastes good and you're hungry for it. But if he grabs your head and moves his cock inside your mouth under his control, then make whimpering sounds like he is overwhelming you…this will make him feel as if his cock is huge and all-powerful. I should point out here that if he has taken control and is literally thrusting himself down your throat, protect yourself by wrapping one hand around his shaft (to decrease the available length), while pushing back against his chest or belly with the other hand to control the force and depth. I hate to admit it, but I once bruised the inside of a lover’s throat by being over-enthusiastic and imperialistic.
8. Now and then stop and say something cute and girly....just to tease him. I had a babygirl who would do this, halting to ask me something silly or just to giggle, and it was terribly effective. If it fits your personality and your relationship with him, this is the best time to address him as “Daddy.”
*Contrary to the common practice of some manipulative longtime partners, this is NOT the time to entreat, barter, negotiate or make demands, as such is surely a sour mood-killer, and will indeed breed resentment.
9. Take his cock on a tour. Rub it across your lips, your face; tap it against your lips, chin, forehead, against the tip of your tongue. Hold it just out of reach of your tongue while you teasingly flick at it. Blow on it. Wrap your hair around it and stroke him. Cradle it between your breasts. All these diversions serve to make him plead (at least in his eyes) for you to take it back into your mouth.
10. If your man is seemingly taking forever to climax…don’t stop in surrender, but wrap your hand around the shaft while you hold the tip inside your lips. Then by moving your hand and head in unison, you will effectively be jacking him off against your mouth, but to him it will still feel like a blowjob. Oh, and make sure your hand is wet with your saliva while doing this, or else the illusion is lost.
(These last two points are naturally subject to your own boundaries, which the man should
always respect.)
11. Find out his preference for his ejaculation (not by asking, but by experimentation), whether he wants you to take it on the throat, breasts or as a facial (external receipt recommended for first time with him), or to swallow it, or (My favorite) let it run out of your mouth and dribble down your chin and throat.
12. Many men are almost painfully sensitive at the tip for the few seconds just after ejaculation, so at this time do not clamp down on the tip with your lips, but rather hold it loosely inside your mouth (if you’re swallowing), or gently rub the tip against your lips or cheek. After this ultra-sensitive phase passes, ALWAYS suck him some more, taking the cock slowly in and out of your mouth while looking him in the eyes, to let him know you are proud to have pleased him and are in no hurry for it to end. Finish up by nursing lovingly on the tip, with adoration in your eyes, then flash a great big smile at the end.
For BIG extra points, lick him totally clean.
I hope this has been helpful to you. Usually I teach this in a hands-on situation (or should that be lips-on?), but I think the above is easy enough with the proper attitude and if you PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE.
