"Next to love, a sense of discipline is a parent's second most important gift to a child. While most parents realize how critical it is to set limits, doing it in a consistent, effective way is one of the most difficult jobs for parents. We all want 'well-behaved' children but we also worry about curbing a child's spirit or overwhelming her with too many limits.

SPARE THE ROD Discipline means teaching your child about limits. There are ways to communicate your disappointment, anger, and frustration using your voice, face, and posture. Your child wants your attention and approval. If you turn away from him, you'll be surprised at the powerful effect it can have.

Keep in mind that spanking isn't worth it. Hitting your child can lead to behavioral difficulties and low self-esteem, and she learns that hitting and aggression are okay--a potentially dangerous lesson.

So tell her "No!" firmly. Then physically move her out of harm's way. Yelling "no" across the room is likely to stop her only for a minute and then invite her to test you. Give her a simple explanation: for example, "It's hot!" if she's been playing near the stove. She may try to challenge you, so quickly distract her with something new.

Remember, your babies are really too young for time-outs and lengthy discussions.