· Describe the behavior or situation in a matter-of-fact way.
· Do not label the child with terms such as: aggressive, bully, rowdy, shy, or selfish. Instead try "Sally hit several children today."
· Tell the parent how you are handling the problem during the day.
· Ask the parent not to punish the child for incidents that occurred at your home, but try to work on causes, and to respond to problems that occur at home.
· Keep the parent informed.
· Try not to react defensively or in anger. Try to communicate in a clear, level manner.
· Ask for clarification until you understand exactly what the concern is.
· Rephrase the concern in your own words to be sure you completely understand the problem.
· Express your understanding of the parent's feelings.
· Explain your policy or position on the complaint.
· Try to reach an agreement.
· Maintain confidentiality.
· If the complaints continue and there seems to be no common ground, consider referring the parent elsewhere.
· Emphasize the positive.
· Never discuss problems with the child in front of the child.
· Know your limits. Be honest about what you can and cannot do.
· Ask open-ended questions.
· Always welcome parental visits.
· Always keep communications absolutely confidential.
*Submitted by Terri