Common Types of Bonding In SRA/DID Survivors

Pain Bonding - Bonding to those who cause you pain so that you can feel alive and feel like you exist.  Without the pain, you feel dead and like you don’t exist.  That is why we bond with people who abuse us.  They need some type of bonding and this is all they can find.

Hate Bonding - Bond with people you hate, or perceive to hate.  This happens with someone you are in constant conflict with and you keep going back to this person to argue more and more.  No bonding makes bonding of any type a desperate need and you become obsessed and addicted to the type of bonding that is painful and dangerous.

Satan (demonic) Bonding - They bond with Satan because there is no other option for bonding given to them.  Children cannot survive without some kind of bonding.  Satanists know this and put you in situations so that Satan and demons are the only type of bonding you can find.

Sexual Bonding - The cult does things to children to please them sexually aside from the abuse and these children bond sexually out of need of bonding.  It is easy for children to bond to this type of abuse, because the child is so traumatized and terrorized, that even though it is perverted pleasure, it is the only type of pleasure the child receives.  The cult also takes it one step further, the program children to be cult prostitutes, pedifiles, child molesters, etc...  (Whatever purpose the cult wants them to serve).

Control Bonds - Where you bond to people who control you.  That is what makes it so easy for programmers and demons to control children.  When that is the only atmosphere that child personality is in, it is there only way to bond.  Sometimes as the personality or even whole person becomes an adult, they will reverse the being controlled to controlling others.  This usually happens when parts see that they are being controlled, and in the black and white thinking, they believe it is better to control instead of being controlled.  

Mother Bonding(internal) - Adult personality bonds with children inside to teach them what either is healthy of God, or what the cult wants them to know (depends on purpose of cult).  When something causes the little ones to hurt more, be re-traumatized, etc. the mothers will bond lovingly to the little ones and help them as much as they are able, then the cult will bring out the little ones to traumatize again.  That is how the cult can keep re-traumatizing certain personalities over and over and keep splitting from the same personalities.

Chaotic Bonding - Where your life has to be in a constant state of chaos because that is what you knew as a child, or it is coming from children, because that is what they bonded to.  That is why it is so hard for us to accept changes in our life, it breaks the bonds and causes intense pain internally and mentally.

There are many other types of bonding that can take place.  These are just some of them.