I dedicate this page in memory of my mother, Frances Beckner.. The title of this page describes her exactly the way she was.. She was always there.. When I was a child when I came home from school , my mother was there.. When I came in from playing , she was there.. I remember very few times when she wasnt there.. Once. she was in the hospital and when I got home from school, That old house had the most terrible, lonely , sad feeling that I have ever felt in my life.. I look at a lot of todays children, and what I see is that they come home to an empty house and that is normal for them.. They dont miss their parents because they have never had them there.. I know that a lot of parents have to work, just to make ends meet, but it is sad to think that little children come home to a babysitter,{if they are lucky}, and others come home to an empty house.. They dont feel the sad, lonely feeling that I felt, if Mom wasnt there.. But the reason that feeling was there was because there was such a bond between my mother and me.. And that bond is one of the most important things that a mother and child should have..When I hear the term "quality time" used today, it is almost funny, if it wasnt so sad.. You cannot put a childs problems on a time schedule. I learned with my children that it was that first few minutes after they came in the door that I could sense if something was wrong or if they had gotten in trouble at school.. If time goes by and they can think of excuses not to discuss their problem , they wont tell you.. It is that first eye contact that can mean whether they confide in you or they keep their problem to themselves.. And if they choose to keep it secret, they learn how to keep more serious things secret..Children of today have so many material things and it has become "the thing" to make sure that they get it all, but while we work to give them those things, they have lost the most important thing in life, which is the ability to miss their parents when they are gone,because they have no bond what-so-ever with them.. I didnt have a lot of toys growing, we were very poor.. I didnt have fine clothes, I had mostly hand-me-downs.. We didnt own a car or have a phone, or none of the "necessities" that we have today.. But I had the most wonderful mother that God ever put on earth. And that is one of the "necessities" that money cannot buy.. My mother died April,15,1993.. But she will always be here..Because not even death can take those memories away
Momma loved the colors lavender and purple . I made this background with her favorite colors. The picture on the left is of Mom in 1969
