"The child sits within the Circle of Life. He has become a member of the Adoption Triad. Being an adoptee, he is the link between the birth parents and the adoptive parents. The red and white roses suggest a unity between his sets of parents. They are united though they might never meet. Both sets of parents affect the child in some fashion, whether through the creation of life or the guidance of life.
"As the blue iris suggests, there is a hope and faith that the child will be given a good life. Birth mothers struggle with these emotions as they have had to make a very difficult decision to give up their child. They place their faith in the word of others who maintain that this is best for the child. They then go through life hoping that their decision was the right one. The wisdom of this decision, many times, will never be known. " The purple iris reflects the wisdom of the choices made at that time. Very difficult choices were made, but for the most part, they were made for the right reasons. It took a great deal of strength to make such difficult choices in light of the lack of support that they received from others. " Orange suggests the strength that the birth mothers had to make for these life decisions. For the most part, the health of the child was the primary factor in the heart-wrenching decision to relinquish him. "Even though there are many difficult decisions, yellow suggests that the child brings a great deal of joy into the world. There are many wonderful adoptive parents who experience the wonderment of the life of an adopted child. Don't know who wrote this, but it sure fits: "What is lighter than a feather, floats in the slightest breeze, is brighter than the sun and more refreshing than a raindrop?? A child's laughter!" "Green is a symbol of life and hope. It reflects the Circle of Life that an adoptive child experiences. It encompasses everything else around us. The child is given life, and circumstances dictate how that life will evolve. The links between the birth parents and adopted parents are forever. The child threads his way through life, influenced by the adopted parents and attempting to acquire knowledge of the influences of the birth parent. The child is the centre of the Circle of Life, the centre of the Adoption Triad, thus, the centre of the Universe.
" The purple iris reflects the wisdom of the choices made at that time. Very difficult choices were made, but for the most part, they were made for the right reasons. It took a great deal of strength to make such difficult choices in light of the lack of support that they received from others. " Orange suggests the strength that the birth mothers had to make for these life decisions. For the most part, the health of the child was the primary factor in the heart-wrenching decision to relinquish him. "Even though there are many difficult decisions, yellow suggests that the child brings a great deal of joy into the world. There are many wonderful adoptive parents who experience the wonderment of the life of an adopted child. Don't know who wrote this, but it sure fits: "What is lighter than a feather, floats in the slightest breeze, is brighter than the sun and more refreshing than a raindrop?? A child's laughter!" "Green is a symbol of life and hope. It reflects the Circle of Life that an adoptive child experiences. It encompasses everything else around us. The child is given life, and circumstances dictate how that life will evolve. The links between the birth parents and adopted parents are forever. The child threads his way through life, influenced by the adopted parents and attempting to acquire knowledge of the influences of the birth parent. The child is the centre of the Circle of Life, the centre of the Adoption Triad, thus, the centre of the Universe.
" Orange suggests the strength that the birth mothers had to make for these life decisions. For the most part, the health of the child was the primary factor in the heart-wrenching decision to relinquish him.
"Even though there are many difficult decisions, yellow suggests that the child brings a great deal of joy into the world. There are many wonderful adoptive parents who experience the wonderment of the life of an adopted child. Don't know who wrote this, but it sure fits: "What is lighter than a feather, floats in the slightest breeze, is brighter than the sun and more refreshing than a raindrop?? A child's laughter!"
"Green is a symbol of life and hope. It reflects the Circle of Life that an adoptive child experiences. It encompasses everything else around us. The child is given life, and circumstances dictate how that life will evolve. The links between the birth parents and adopted parents are forever. The child threads his way through life, influenced by the adopted parents and attempting to acquire knowledge of the influences of the birth parent. The child is the centre of the Circle of Life, the centre of the Adoption Triad, thus, the centre of the Universe.
I find it very profound to see myself as a little boy in the centre of this image. It puts things into perspective for me as it gives more understanding to my situation as an adoptee. I reflect on the "Adult" symbolisms and see that I occupy a place in the world that is not complete, as there are still many unanswered questions. I do not know who my birth father is and still suspect that I have siblings on my birth mother's side. I continue my search and hope that someday these will no longer be "unknowns." There are those that feel that well enough should be left alone. I feel that I have the right to know my roots. Hopefully, old archaic laws will change so that I may be able to make some sense of this "void" that I carry. I have a right to know my ancestors as all non-adoptees have. I recognize that there are cases where birth parents do not wish to have contact OR do not want to open up the secrets of the past. What is sad is that these secrets were created as a result of a society that frowned on children born out of wedlock. Birth mothers had enormous pressures on them, as the stigma of society was overwhelming.
I have learned that all three sides of the Triad have similar feelings of fear of rejection. More and more people are presently involved in searches. Adoptees fear being rejected by birth parents. This is as a result of the many unanswered questions. Birth parents fear rejection from their birth child because they have relinquished that child. Adopted parents fear their children finding the birth parents, as they will be replaced. It is a shame that all of these feelings need to be experienced by the various members of the Triad. It makes me wonder if the adoptions were more open, whether this might alleviate those concerns.
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Having had these feelings as expressed, I decided to begin my Journey to find my birth mother. At that time I didn't articulate them in nearly the same fashion, as I do now, but I was open to whatever & wherever my journey would take me. Click on the graphic below to share this journey.