ARE YOU STRUGGLING WITH JEALOUSY?

HATRED? POSSESSIVENESS? ENVY? ANGER?

Would you like to learn how to MASTER and TRANSFORM such emotions? If so, there is a 3-day conference happening in Berkeley, California, on October 27-29, 2006 that you will NOT want to miss. All great philosophies and religions teach that jealousy, hatred, possessiveness, envy and anger are major obstacles to happiness and well-being, but how can you transcend these difficult emotions? It IS possible for ordinary people to master these feelings, and live a happier, more satisfying life. This 3-day conference is designed to show you how.

At this conference, a variety of powerful, effective, cutting-edge techniques will be presented - techniques YOU can learn and use yourself! First, you will learn how to determine the precise nature of the emotion you are struggling with, and, having done so, be able to know which specific procedures are called for to heal them. Then, you will learn some basic, simple-to-use methods - drawn from various disciplines including Neuro-Linguistic Programming, (NLP), Applied Kinesiology, hypnosis, visualization, communication research, modern brain science and traditional meditative practices. You will be able to apply to each of these techniques to your own unique pattern of emotional disturbances.

To register via email:

dr_dave_doleshal@yahoo.com

or call 415-577-6015

LOCATION: 2525 8th Street, Suite #15, Berkeley, Calif. (This is on the South East Corner of 8th and Dwight).

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TENTATIVE SCHEDULE

(Subject to variations, adjustments and alterations. Considerable flexibility will be allowed to incorporate group discussion, questions and answers and time for individual work as needed).

FRIDAY OCTOBER 27: 2006

4 PM REGISTRATION

4:30 - 5:00 PM Introduction, Orientation and Welcome

5:00 - 5:45 PM: WHAT IS JEALOUSY?

Jealousy is a whole bundle of emotions, thoughts, feelings, and experiences that naturally arise when we feel threatened with the loss of something valuable to us, or when we want something very badly and fear that we won't get it. The experience of jealousy is normal, natural, and healthy, and can teach us a lot about ourselves. While jealousy seems to be a universal experience shared by almost everyone in almost every culture around the world, each person's jealousy includes a unique constellation of feelings. In identifying your own unique jealousy profile, you can understand the origins of your jealousy and work with it so it can be a protective ally rather than a destructive force. If we can understand the key components of our own jealousy, we can learn to manage these difficult feelings and dramatically reduce their power over us. At this workshop you will be able to define the components of your own unique jealousy profile and learn tools to manage jealousy more effectively and feel much more in control when jealous feelings arise. (Presenter: TBA)

6:00 - 6:45 PM : EMOTIONAL ALCHEMY : Transforming Constricted Emotional States into Expansive Emotional States.

Within every constricted, "negative" emotional state exists the "seed" of a more open, fluid, expansive and "positive" emotional state. Learning to transform the hidden potential of your constricted negative emotional states into their more expansive, positive forms is another key to gaining mastery over your negative emotions. Whether you experience the constricted "negative" version or the more expansive "positive" form of an emotional state is related to differences in the way your attention is focused upon the feeling. For example, "possessiveness" is a crude, constricted, primitive version of a more expansive state that can be labeled as "cherishing." These two similar states have much in common. They are related to each other, but are also quite different from each other. In both possessiveness and cherishing, there is a recognition of a vulnerability - an awareness of something of great value at risk of being lost. The key difference is that while possessiveness is the result of reacting to the situation with only the lower brain centers and "emergency mode" aspects of one's intelligence, cherishing results from processing the same event with one's fuller intelligence and higher brain centers as well. In possessiveness, the person you feel possessive of is being treated as if they were merely an object - a "thing" that can be owned or treated as property - rather than being appreciated as the unique and irreplaceable human being they actually are - a person with rights, feelings, free-will and a destiny of their own whose freedom and desires must be acknowledged. Most other "negative" emotions display a similar pattern - the potential to be transformed into their more expansive forms when dealt with correctly. There is a fine art to this skill that has been evolving since ancient times - with contributions from pre-historic shaman, insights of medieval "alchemists" and innovations supplied by contemporary neuroscientists and psychologists. This presentation will begin to teach how specific stressful emotional states can be dealt with in more effective ways - transforming them from their more limited, constricted manifestations into their more useful, healthier and more satisfying expansive forms. (Presenter - Dave Doleshal, Ph.D.).

7:00 - 7:45 PM

" INTENTION AND PURPOSES OF JEALOUSY"

Much of the "difficulty" in managing jealousy comes from the myth of being a victim of it, the myth that "jealousy" is a totally involuntary process that simply happens to you without your consent or participation, and that in no way serves your personal agenda. For instance, the sudden "involuntary" attack of an overwhelmingly negative emotion inside of one person that can be eradicated IF AND ONLY IF some other person makes a change in their behavior can be very convenient for the first person, giving them great power to control the second person. Many of the emotional difficulties referred under the label of jealousy have a similar motivation, and unless the function such "jealousy" is serving is acknowledged, this will tend to sabotage efforts towards positive change.

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SATURDAY: OCTOBER 28

9:30 - 10 AM ORIENTATION & INTRODUCTION

10 AM - 10:45 AM : THOUGHT FIELD THERAPY. (TFT)

TFT was developed by Roger Callahan, and involves the gentle tapping of acupuncture points (no needles) to achieve rapid relief from troubling emotions. TFT represents a powerful, yet still little-known approach to emotional problems . (In a survey of 10,000 members of the APA, (American Psychological Association), when asked to vote on the most effective methods they had knowledge of for dealing with emotional trauma, four techniques tied for first place - with TFT being one of the four. It was further noted that if rapidness of cure was taken into account, TFT should be considered the best of those four methods. It is very effective on a wide range of emotional issues related to jealousy.(Presenter - Dave Doleshal, Ph.D.)

11:00 - 11:45 AM: EYE MOVEMENT DESENSITIZATION AND REPROCESSING. (EMDR)

EMDR was developed by Francine Shapiro. EMDR is another radically innovative but extremely effective method for healing troubling emotions. Using a specific pattern of alterations in attentive processes and neurological stimulation patterns, EMDR allows the nervous system to fully integrate distressing experiences and heal emotional traumas. (In the same study of 10,000 APA members mentioned above, it was noted that of the four most effective methods for healing emotional trauma, EMDR was the most effective in terms of permanence of cure). (Presenter- Zoe Kunstenaar).

LUNCH BREAK 12 NOON - 1:30 PM

1:30 - 2:30 PM : "NEURO-LINGUISTIC PROGRAMMING (NLP)

The discipline of Neuro-Linguistic programming was developed primarily by John Grinder and Richard Bandler. NLP contains a wide variety of interesting concepts and method for changing patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving. Some of its earliest successes included several rapid methods of removing the negative emotional charge from traumatic memories or challenging situations, using some very simple but counterintuitive techniques. One such easy-to-learn method relevant to the subject of jealousy management will be demonstrated in this presentation.

(Presenter: Benjamin Loftgren, Ph.D).

2:45 - 3:20 PM FLORAL ESSENCE THERAPY. (FET)

A remarkable system for healing emotions was developed by Edward Bach in the 1920s as variation on older, classical homeopathic medicine. Bach's remedies were made primarily from flowers or other plants. They often have a subtle, gentle but surprisingly powerful effect on the emotions, and are completely safe and simple to administer. This gentle but powerful method can be used on its own, or to augment the effectiveness of any of the methods presented above, as well as to enhance any other kind of healing method or therapeutic approach. (Presenter: Dave Doleshal, PhD)

3:30-4:15 PM " "

THE LAW OF ATTRACTION: LEVERAGE YOUR FEELINGS TO CREATE THE LIFE AND RELATIONSHIPS YOU DESIRE.

THE LAW OF ATTRACTION is an immutable law of the Universe. It is neutral and responds to all of our thoughts and feelings. Most of us don't know that we invoke this law all the time. When we focus on the less-than-positive aspects of our lives we thus draw to us more of what we don't want. We can learn to use our emotional guidance system to evaluate how close or far we are to manifesting what we want. Feelings such as jealousy can be a guide to measuring what we really want. (Presenter: LUCIA AUGUST, M.A.).

4:30 - 5:15 PM. "SHAMANIC VISIONING"

In western societies, in recent times it has been taken for granted various forms of "talk therapy" represent the best - if not the only - means of healing difficult emotional issues. However, in much of the rest of the world and throughout history, other kinds of modalities have been considered to be more effective. One such method used in many parts of the world has been the traditional "Vision Quest." (Presenter: KIRSTEN ROSE)

DINNER BREAK 5:15 - 6:45 PM

7:00 - 9:00 PM : Small Group and Individual Work: During this section, those wishing to receive individual attention or further work in small groups with specific methods and presenters will have the opportunity to do so.

SUNDAY: OCTOBER 29

10:00 - 10:30 AM : ORIENTATION & INTRODUCTION

10:30 AM - 11:15 AM "WHEREVER YOU GO, THERE YOU ARE: MOVING GRACEFULLY FROM PARTITIONING TO HEART PARTNERING POLYAMORY."

Reality 1.0—the Newtonian world view—tells us that we are all individuals: on our own from birth through death. Like it or not, that’s just the way it is. In our relationship coaching practice, we call this “partitioning.” Reality 2.0—the quantum physics world view—tells us that we are all connected at a cellular level. If that is true, then a new relationship model is needed; we call this “heart partnering.” What if you, practicing polyamory, are actually in the middle of an epic argument between world views, and just don’t know it? Sharing our lives means realizing that we’re all connected on many, many levels. Once we recognize this, we understand that for polyamory to work, everyone’s pain belongs to everyone involved--it’s everyone’s problem to solve, not just the one who is hurting. Conversely, no joy is finer than joy that is shared by everyone. The point is, we are all experiencing each others' joys and sorrows at every moment. We are not separate beings - we are all one. Jump with us down the quantum-physics rabbit hole for a discussion of ways to include all your polyamorous partners in your own, personal energy pond – moving from partitioning to heart partnering in a graceful, inclusive way. Be prepared to rethink your whole view of what constitutes reality – and relationship!

(Presenters: Tana Gallante & Cougar Brennenman)

11:30 - 12:15 PM

Symmetry consists of a comprehensive system for addressing a wide variety of emotional and spiritual matters. This presentation will be a brief introduction to Symmetry.

(PRESENTER: JASON YOON)

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2:30 - 3:00 PM: 3:00 PM Discussion, Concluding Remarks and Closure.

6:30 PM: POTLUCK and party (off site location)

The official price for enrollment will be $99 at the door, or $85 for those who register and pay prior to October 1st. There is also a special early-bird discount of $40 for those who register and pay before August 1st. For those who register and pay after August 1st but before September 1st, the price is $60. (Ask about other special discounts that may apply (i.e. student discount price is $25. Other discounts are available to veterans, members of Saturnia Regna, members of the World Polyamory Association, or members of Love+Politics). No refunds after Sept 15th.

This conference is happening at: 2525 Eighth Street, Suite 15, in Berkeley, California.(Friday evening October 27 to Sunday evening, October 29, 2006).

There will be breaks for lunch and dinner. Numerous cafes and restaurants are nearby. (Price includes conference only. No meals, lodging nor travel expenses are included).

This event will be presented by numerous different presenters. Each has their own perspective, and each is an expert in their field. To register for the conference, or to obtain more information, email us, or contact us by phone:

415-577-6015

dr_dave_doleshal@yahoo.com

A special yahoo group is in the process of being formed especially for this event. Anyone interested in invited to join and post to it:

jealousymanagement@yahoogroups.com