Update: October 3rd, 2008
Today is my third anniversary of my
SRS in Bangkok, Thailand. Three years
after completing my transition, I find myself on a new journey in life.
I have become a statistic of the
recession of 2008. On July 2nd,
high management of my workplace announced their plans to idle the plant where I
have worked for the past five years.
Some employees remained a little longer, but I was among those laid off
that day.
I can look back and say it was nice
while it lasted. First, that job enabled
me to save the funds for SRS. After
completing my physical transition, the workplace continued to provide my funds
so that I could take classes at my local community college, and taking several
long pleasure trips, including the Colorado Rockies, Black Hills, a caravan
tour of Waterton/Glacier/Banff/Jasper parks in
Alberta, and more recently, the mammoth caves in Kentucky. Finally, at the time of my layoff, I had
nearly the same amount of money saved as I did just before my SRS.
So I believed that I knew what I
needed to do. After conferring with a
professor, I determined that I needed only five more classes (total of 17
credit hours) to finish my associate’s degree.
Additionally, I had already attained a highly esteemed CCNA
certification last summer. So instead of
immediately seeking new employment, I decided to attend school full time this
fall and take all five of those classes.
I feel that I am making another type
of transition, this time an economical transition. This economic transition began when I started
taking classes part time two years ago, and started down the CCNA path in early
2007. I am not sure what I will
encounter at the end of this little journey.
First, I will be attempting to enter the IT workforce without prior IT
workplace experience. Second, the
economy continues to deteriorate. But I
can look forward to the idea of looking for work in early 2009 with two
advantages that I didn’t have before: a CCNA certificate and an associate’s
degree.
Life has not been easy for me in
2008, but I continue to reap the great benefit of my great transition years
ago: Whatever happens to me in life, I
get to face it as the real me, a woman.
And very
soon, hopefully, a career woman too.
Update: September 3rd,
2006
Eleven full months have now passed
since my SRS surgery in Thailand. As I
continue to gradually and carefully taper my dilation schedule, I am moving on
with my life.
During my transition I had forsaken
most of my yearly vacations to help me save funds for SRS and to finish my
transition. I partially made up for this
in 2006 by taking two vacations this summer. First, I visited the Colorado Rockies and the
Black Hills of South Dakota. Then I took
a second vacation in New England. I
moved to a slightly better apartment in my area.
Now that my transition is finished,
I have started working toward my next goal in life. On August 21st I began taking
classes at a local community college. I
won’t go to school full time because I do need to work full time, so progress
will seem slow while I take six credit hours per semester (and three more in
the summer). I was able to transfer some
credits from a college I had attended in another community college 20 years
ago, and this will help me toward my goal of getting my Associate’s
degree. I think I will seek my
Associate’s degree in computer engineering technology, most likely in
networking rather than programming classes, because many programming jobs have
been outsourced to India recently. My
target date for obtaining my Associate’s degree is May 2010.
I hope to accomplish two things from
resuming my education. First, I do hope
to eventually have a real career.
Second, obtaining any Associate’s degree would provide me a
degree in my real legal name that I could present to any employer. Because I graduated from a parochial
(Catholic) high school, getting my name changed on my high school diploma is
hopeless especially while Benedict XVI is pope.
If any employer now asked me to show a high school diploma, I would
either have to decline the job or else out myself by referring to my diploma
still in my male name. An Associate’s
degree in my name of Sherry from a two-year college would give me something
even better to present.
I will understandably be very busy
during the next several years, especially when school is in session. So I will not be able to answer all of my
E-mail, while responses to E-mails I do answer could be delayed for days or
weeks. Please read my contact page
for more information.
Update: April 29th, 2006
It has been almost seven months
since my SRS. My surgery has been a
complete success, my recovery has also been complete, and my life is much more
comfortable.
I finally corrected my birth
certificate. I also went to my local
Social Security Administration office and presented my surgery letters and my
corrected birth certificate. Now my SSA
record finally lists me female. Having
my SSA record corrected has been a huge relief for me.
I’ve added two more pages to my
website.
Part V: SRS In Retrospect
Describes my improved life since my SRS
Orchiectomy OK Before SRS? Although I needed a skin graft to ensure
adequate SRS results following some tissue shrinkage from my orchiectomy, my choice to have orchiectomy
six years before SRS still had many benefits, and I am still happy that I had
my orchiectomy before I began my transition.
Update: November 8th,
2005
I have made it through my surgery
OK. My only complications were the need
to have a skin graft taken from my tummy (and a horizontal scar line there) for
adequate depth and function of my new genitals, and more swelling than
usual. Otherwise, I am healing well and
expect to return to work in only a few more days.
To describe the experience of my
SRS, and provide information for those considering Dr. Kamol or any other SRS
surgeon in Thailand, I have expanded my SRS section and added
half a dozen new pages:
Update: September 26th,
2005
My SRS date is only seven days
away! I am feeling excited despite
having to discontinue my HRT three weeks ago, and the resulting hot flashes and
sometimes feeling cranky at work.
I will be away from home for weeks,
and have very limited time for months. I
have written a little page to advise readers of my limited ability
to respond to E-Mails in the coming months as dilations, increasing work
hours, my surgery, and my recovery will consume much of my time.
I plan to update my website again in
early November to let you know that I made it through the SRS procedure OK and
assure you of my recovery. I also hope
to add new information about SRS to help you through the process of surgery and
recovery.
Two of my
pages, ‘Castration Effects’, and ‘Orchiectomy for Transsexuals’, have been
translated into the Spanish language. The Spanish translation
of these pages now
available here.
Ahora dos de mi paginas, ‘Castration
Effects’, y ‘Orchiectomy for Transsexuals’, estan disponible en Espańol.
Update: July 2nd, 2005
I have added a new page about how to
obtain temporary Passports for
Transsexuals Traveling to Thailand for SRS with the sex listed female. These temporary passports are valid for 12
months, and once you return from your SRS they can easily be extended to ten
year permanent passports.
I am now only 93 days away from my SRS date. I have obtained my SOC therapist letter, my
passport, and my plane tickets.
Update: May 4th, 2005
Today is the first anniversary of
the unfortunate day when the Social Security
Administration outed me
to my employer. Now one year later, I am
happy to report that the knowledge of my transition history is still contained
in the HR department, and I remain stealth at work and my everyday life. I continue to work and save additional funds
before my upcoming SRS date.
One year after this most unfortunate
event since my transition, I have added an essay about changing
the sex/gender markers on legal documents after orchiectomy.
Unfortunately, there is little we can do
about this, yet there is much to this issue for me to write about.
I have also added to the Orchiectomy For Transsexuals
essay, where I address the question of whether orchiectomy or any genital
surgery will affect orgasms and sexual function after the surgery.
Update: February 24th,
2005
I have chosen my SRS surgeon and set
a date!
You may read more about my choice on
my SRS Page. I have added some SRS related links on the
bottom of that page.
Update: December 30th,
2004
Today is the second anniversary of
the day I began my RLE. I have written
some thoughts and reflections about my RLE.
I am happy to report a new resource
for transsexual orchiectomy. Andrea
James writes about this on her TS-Roadmap site here.
My brother has reached out to me and
accepted my transition. He is the first
person in my family to call me Sherry and recognize my transition. Not only has my brother found me, but in a
way I have also found my brother! I
visited him this evening and saw him for the first time since I transitioned
two years ago.
I also visited some of my old
friends in Arkansas and Tulsa after Christmas.
My brother and my friends have given me a Merry Christmas this year.
I wish you a happy New Year, and
hope you reach your goals in 2005.
Update: August 16th, 2004
I have started a new SRS web page.
Update: May 28th, 2004
During the month of May 2004, my
quiet and peaceful life has been disturbed by the Social Security
Administration insisting that the gender marker on my files at work matches the
SSA record. I have written about this
at:
Update: January 22nd,
2004
I’ve added another page to my
orchiectomy section pertaining to castration
safety, which explains the dangers of obtaining orchiectomy by a
non-professional or by trying to do it to yourself.
Update: January 3rd, 2004
I made a few additions and minor
corrections on my links page.
Four days ago I marked my first
anniversary of going full time. My
process has required some effort on my part and a little help from some
friends, but the improvement in the quality of my life has been well worth
it. My life is not perfect, but it is a
lot more comfortable than it used to be.
Several of you have replied to my
update of last October, assuring me that you understood my need to remove some
of the pages from this site. I do
appreciate your understanding.
I wish everyone a happy 2004.
Update: October 4th, 2003
Now that I am living a more or less
stealth, I have had to seriously think about issues that could potentially
reveal my past and jeopardize the life I have made so much effort to
attain. One of those issues has been
this website. To maintain any sort of
transition website is to risk having a coworker or neighbor stumble onto this
site and recognize my picture or other information I have written. Here is an example of what could
potentially happen if I leave too much information about myself on the web, and
while I don’t know the outcome of that particular instance, it was probably a
lot better than what could happen, especially considering some of the
vindictive people out there.
At the same time, many people have
written me to express how my website has helped them. My pages about orchiectomy and hair
replacement have been especially valuable to many transitioners,
and I would really hate to deprive my transitioning friends of this
information. I find myself faced with
the difficult choice of either risking the unpleasant consequences of being outed, or depriving thousands of other transitioners
of the valuable information I have provided on my site.
As with many other difficult
choices, I am choosing a middle ground.
To secure the status of my present life and how I am perceived by
neighbors and coworkers, I have removed my photos and much of the personal
information by which a reader too close to home might recognize me by. But I will seek to maintain the informative
aspects of my site. All of the orchiectomy
pages as well as my hair replacement page and the links page will remain on the
web for all those who will transition after me.
You can still send me E-Mail to my Hotmail account at MysterySJC@Hotmail.com and ask any
questions that I didn’t cover on my site.
I want you to know that I regret
having to remove my Bio and journals, as some readers have told me that this
had been helpful and inspiring to them, and I have removed those things solely
for the protection of my privacy.
To contact me by E-Mail, please go
to Sherry's
Contact Page
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