Please remember that my SRS was the
first major surgery of my life, the first time I had ever been under general
anesthesia, and the first time I had to spend even one night in any hospital,
much less six nights. Because I had never been through anything like this
before, some of these new experiences before and after my surgery did frighten
me, and I was more likely to feel afraid than would anyone who had been through
any significant surgery before.
I have read many
dozens of essays pertaining to SRS experiences. Most women write of their relief immediately after waking up when
they realize that their surgery has been completed and they had no
complications. I had looked forward to
waking up and realizing my own surgery was complete, and the relief I would
feel. But a misunderstanding in
communicating with the nurses, and my lack of knowledge because I had never
been an overnight patient in any hospital caused fresh anxieties for me. For eleven hours I would be denied the
knowledge and relief that I was OK and my surgery was finished.
After I made it
through that difficult first night, I realized not only relief and joy, but
soon I had a newfound appreciation of my new genitals. I had believed that I would be happy just to
get rid of my despised male parts, so I was surprised when I felt an
appreciation for what I had gained, and began to cherish everything Dr. Kamol
had given me even before I could see what I now had.
……I found myself in a chilly and
unfamiliar room, lying on my back, with my head turned to my left. Something in this room was beeping. I did not feel nauseous, but I was dizzy. I knew I had been through surgery, but I wondered
if I had made it through OK. I slowly
turned my head toward my right, and this seemed to require so much effort. I had never felt so weak and tired in my
life.
That beeping noise was caused by a
pulse monitor, which had been clamped on one of my fingers. In addition, they had also placed a blood
pressure cuff on my right arm, which activated about once every hour to monitor
my blood pressure. A monitor screen
above me displayed my vital signs, including lines that appeared to be
EKG. On my left side I was still on my
IV, and I saw another line connected to my IV.
Later on I would learn that this was a morphine drip. I had an oxygen line on my nose.
I felt only moderate pain, but I felt a
terrible discomfort on top of this pain.
That terrible discomfort I felt was my catheter line. I felt like I so urgently needed to pee, yet
it seemed that I could not pee or relieve myself at all. Was I going to feel this way for six days,
needing to pee so urgently yet never being able to go?
I felt afraid again. Up until yesterday, I had never needed to be
on any one of these things I was now connected to in that CCU. So it was startling when I found myself on
all of these things at once. Was all of
this routine after surgery, or did they connect me to all of these things
because something was seriously wrong with me?
My 38 years of good health and good fortune were working against me
tonight. My inexperience of these things
magnified my fears. If I had ever
needed even my tonsils removed, I might have known that all of this was
routine, and it would not have scared me so badly.
Did I make it through my surgery? Was I OK?
My surgery had started after 4PM, and Dr. Kamol had told me he would
take 6.5 hours to perform my SRS, so it should be close to midnight already, or
maybe a little later. I could not
believe it when I found the clock. It
was 9:20. Something unexpected had happened. Was it already 9:20 AM of the morning
after? Was there a complication that
caused my surgery to take up to 16 hours?
Or was it 9:20 PM on the night of my surgery, which would mean I had
been out for only four hours and my surgery might be incomplete? Did Dr. Kamol finish my surgery? Did something go wrong, that the doctor was
unable to finish my surgery?
I could not tell if it was night or
day, whether it was PM or AM, if my surgery had taken four hours or 16
hours. I looked around for outside
windows, but I could not see any from my bed in CCU #4. I did hear frequent and loud thunder, and
even this deep inside the hospital, I could hear torrential rain pounding on
the hospital building. It sounded like
there was a terrible thunderstorm outside.
Jaruwan would later tell me that Bangkok indeed had torrential
thunderstorms with street flooding this evening.
Maybe I could look and see if my
surgery was completed. But dressings
covered my entire genital area, and I could not yet determine what was under
those dressings. I could feel pain
along a line near below my tummy, near the top of my dressing, so I was pretty
sure Dr. Kamol had taken the skin graft, and I felt a small dressing on my neck
where he had performed my trachea shave.
But did he finish my genital surgery?
I felt some pain in the genital area, but that pain would not tell me
how much of the surgery had been performed.
I tried to call a nurse to find out
what was happening, but my voice and throat felt so scratchy. I coughed up some yucky stuff from my
throat. I did not yet know if the anesthetic
had caused this, or if that was from my trachea shave. How long would I sound like this? Would I regain my voice before I had to
return home and go back to work? No
nurses could yet hear my scratchy voice, and I had to wait for a short while
until a nurse walked in to check up on me.
Once a nurse did walk into my CCU unit,
I tried to ask her some of my questions.
My first mistake had been not asking enough questions before surgery
about where I would be immediately after surgery and what would happen there. For all of the questions I had about my surgery,
I had asked very little about what would happen immediately after my
surgery. While I tried to navigate the
language barrier with this nurse who spoke only limited English, I made my
second mistake. These two mistakes
caused so much unnecessary anxiety for me during my first post-op night.
A day or two later, Jaruwan would
explain to me that most of their nurses understood the word ‘operation’, and if
I had asked them if my operation was OK, they could have told me that
everything was OK and relieved my anxiety much sooner. But the nurses did not understand the word
‘surgery’, and that was the word I used when I tried to ask my questions. They tried their best to communicate with
me, and unintentionally gave me frightening illusions in the CCU.
I asked, ‘Was there a problem with my
surgery?’
The nurse, not understanding my
question, told me ‘Yes.’
What was wrong with my surgery? She told me that Dr. Kamol would see me
tomorrow. Did this mean that I would
need more surgery?
Someone had brought all of my luggage
down to my CCU as if they planned to keep me there for the rest of the
week. I asked when I would go back to
my room? The nurse told me ‘tomorrow’. If it was already past 9AM, then I was going
to be in here for quite a while. So I asked
if it was night or day outside. She
told me it was night. My catheter felt
so uncomfortable, was there anything she could do about this discomfort? The nurse seemed to not understand, but I
doubt she could have done anything about my catheter anyway.
So this is what I believed for my first
eleven hours post-op: I had been in
surgery for only four hours, probably because something went wrong, and my
surgery was probably incomplete, that I would somehow go back to my room
tomorrow, but I would either have more surgery or I would leave here a mid-op.
For now there was nothing I could do
about my perceived predicament. I would
have to anxiously wait through this frightening night, until Dr. Kamol or
anyone else told me exactly what had gone wrong. Then I would have to determine what I needed to do, or if I could
do anything.
I tried to sleep through this anxious
night, but I was too worried and too uncomfortable. In addition to my discomfort from that catheter, I felt too cold,
especially on my lower extremities. I
usually sleep with my socks on because my feet get cold so easily, but I did
not have this option tonight. I should
have felt sleepy after four hours of anesthesia, but my discomfort, cold, and
anxiety kept me awake. After the few
times I did doze off, that beeping pulse monitor would invariably wake me up in
several minutes or less.
Tuesday, October 4th, 2005
My anesthesiologist finally visited me
shortly before 9 AM. He knew enough
English to understand all of my questions, concerns, and fears, and I finally
learned the reassuring truth from him.
I had turned out to be one of those fortunate patients whose surgery
required less time than usual, Dr. Kamol did indeed complete my vaginoplasty
plus trachea shave in only four hours, I had no complications, and very soon
they would wheel me to my room. My
surgery had merely been completed sooner than expected. Everything had gone so well that I thought
something was terribly wrong!
Relief flooded through me. I would not need any more surgery. I was going to recover from this, and I was
already beginning to recover. The
catheter still bothered me, but even that did not feel as uncomfortable or
urgent as it had ten hours ago. My
voice was also improving, although for now my voice still felt like Diana’s in
the “V” Original and The Final Battle mini-series of more than 20 years ago
(the aliens’ voices do not sound different in the regular V series; you will
have to watch the preceding mini-series to hear what I mean). Others were already telling me my voice
didn’t sound that bad, but I certainly felt like my voice sounded like those
aliens. The anesthesiologist told me
that the anesthetic tube had temporarily affected my voice, and this would
clear up in time.
My life dramatically improved over the
next six hours, even as I enjoyed the relief from my surgery being finished and
successful. My long night had ended,
and it was turning into a joyful day for me.
Two nurses served me broth for
breakfast. I had not eaten for 24 hours
now, yet I did not feel hungry, but I did not feel nauseous either. I ate breakfast and did not feel sick
afterwards. I was only anxious to leave
this CCU. At 9AM, they wheeled in a
gurney for me, and a cart for my luggage.
They were going to move me out of here and to my own room again! I was not allowed to stand or walk until
next Sunday, so the nurses had to move me from one bed to another by means of a
white plastic board. We weren’t quite
as excited as we had been on my way down here yesterday, but I was still joyful
that I was leaving the CCU, and everyone was happy for me. I think somebody pressed a wrong button in
the elevator, because we momentarily ended up on the 12th
floor. Soon I was on the tenth floor
where I belonged, and they wheeled me toward my room.
The room numbers ascended as they
wheeled me through the corridor. Wasn’t
I in room 1006? I must be going down
the wrong corridor, but the nurses seemed to know where they were taking
me. I think the hospital was a little
short on rooms, and my room was needed while I was down in the CCU, so I was
going to recover in room 1024 instead.
This explained why I found all of my belongings with me in the CCU last
night. More reassurance. Again the nurses lifted me into my bed,
where I would be confined for five more days.
Someone set a sign on my TV that read ‘Absolute bed rest’. But they helped me set up my CD player and
other belongings so I would always be able to reach my comforts from my bed.
One or two nurses, or sometimes several
at once, would frequently enter my room to check my temperature and blood
pressure, deliver my meals, give me a bed bath, or clean the room. When the nurse took my vital signs, she
would often comment ‘no fever’, or ‘normal’.
These responses frequently reassured me during my six days in the
hospital.
I was back in my own room, able to eat
again, and well on the road to recovery.
My voice continued to improve, and by late morning I was almost able to
talk normally, although others would tell me that my voice still sounded like
it was cracking.
Then I received some apparent bad
news. When two of the nurses checked up
on me again late this morning, one of them told me that my IV was leaking and
wasn’t any good, so they had to remove it and re-insert it. Not again!
I had a very unpleasant experience receiving my IV yesterday, and I was
hoping I would never have to go through that again. Worse, they had already tried my left hand twice, so now they
were going to put it in my right hand. If it failed there, where would they try to put it next?
Dr. Kamol visited me. He confirmed what the anesthesiologist had
told me, told me my surgery was completed and successful, and that I had over
five inches of depth. I asked him when
I would no longer need my IV, and he told me when I started eating solid
foods. I did not feel hungry, but I
desperately wanted to avoid having another IV line placed in me, and was more
than willing to try eating something solid if that would prevent the nurses
from putting another IV in me. I soon
learned that I could request a western salad, so I asked for one.
Jaruwan arrived for her almost-daily
visit just before noon. Not only did
she bring me flowers, but she also brought Sherry Marlene with her. Sherry already wore an IV on her hand, and
she was now only two hours from her SRS this afternoon. I was so happy to see both of them. The bad IV in my left hand had been removed,
but it seemed to take my nurses a long time to bring my salad, and I worried
about the nurses replacing my IV line if I didn’t get solid food very
soon. A nurse did bring me lunch, but
she brought me more broth as if I was still on a liquid diet. I asked Jaruwan for help so I could eat
something solid and not have to go through the ordeal of another IV line
again. She communicated to the nurses
for me, and I eventually received my salad at 1 PM. I ate this and had no ill effects, so I never had another IV put
in me for the rest of my hospital stay.
Later on, another nurse asked me to choose my next several meals of
solid foods from the hospital menu.
Sherry Marlene had to leave me at noon
so she could finish preparing for her surgery.
I wished that I could go down with Sherry Marlene to be there for her as
she went to the operating room for her own surgery. I tried to reassure her that no matter how miserable she felt
when she woke up in the CCU, that things were going to get better from that
time forward, so stay focused on how she was going to feel in the future.
Jaruwan returned and asked me would it
be OK if one of Dr. Kamol’s patients from Taiwan visited me. Soon, I met a new friend, and Jaruwan
bridged the language barrier for us.
The Taiwanese told me that I looked pretty. She was leaving the hospital today, and would soon go home.
After I finished my salad, I took a nap
for a short while, but two nurses woke me up when they came in my room at 3PM
for my afternoon bath.
Another nurse brought me my dinner at
6PM. At 6:30 another nurse told me that
Sherry Marlene’s surgery was successfully finished, and she was leaving the
operating room. Both of us made
it! This nurse had a tray full of
medicines and syringes. I had a brief
moment of anxiety when I saw that tray, which looked like one of my
nightmares. Did I have to take all of
that medicine, and receive all of those shots?
No, only one of those cups containing two small pills was mine. She had set all medications for every
patient in the tenth ward on that tray, and that is what I saw.
Wednesday, October 5th, 2005
Jaruwan visited me again late this
morning. She informed me that Sherry
Marlene made it through her SRS OK, but she was still in the CCU. And I thought I had done hard time down
there. Her surgery had started at only
2PM, and based on my own duration in the CCU, I thought they would bring her to
her room very early this morning. Why
were they keeping her down there?
Jaruwan assured me that the tenth ward had no rooms available at the
moment, so Sherry Marlene was merely waiting for a room to become available.
A room finally became available, and
Sherry Marlene returned to the tenth ward at noon. Almost immediately, she called me, and we let each other know
that we were OK, but sore. They had
taken her to room 1002, on the other side of the ward. Although we could not share the same
hospital room, we could still talk with each other almost whenever we wanted,
and be there for each other. I had
mostly recovered my speaking voice, but Sherry Marlene told me my voice sounded
like it was cracking on the phone.
I did not see Dr. Kamol at all today,
and no nurse changed my dressings.
Wasn’t somebody supposed to change my dressings every day? Occasionally I would feel something warm oozing
under that dressing. Was I
bleeding? Or worse, was my catheter
leaking contamination all over my healing vagina? I worried that if nobody changed my dressing, then an infection
might ruin my new vagina. I hoped nothing
would happen to my new genitals.
Wait a minute, what did I just
think? Hadn’t I always felt that any
quality of SRS, or even a mere removal of male genitals without any effort to
create any female parts, would be a vast improvement? I still had not seen whatever those dressings covered. But I knew that I had something female down
there, and whatever it was, I wanted to keep it, and prevent any harm from
coming to it.
I used to consider having only external
surgery to remove my male parts and not bother creating female parts, or maybe
having only penectomy and labiaplasty without creating any depth. Other transsexuals had worried that I might
later regret not having depth, and told me I could not know how having a vagina
and being physically complete would feel until I had the complete surgery. I already knew what they meant, and I was
only two days post-op. I was even
relieved and happy that I had chosen to take a skin graft from my tummy for
additional depth, and now I knew I had made the correct decision when I let Dr.
Kamol take that graft.
Not only was I happy that my male parts
were gone, but I had ceased to be among the small minority of the population
who did not like the genitals they had.
Dr. Kamol had cured me of being TS.
Now I was correct, and cherished those yet unseen genitals I now
had. If an infection or anything else
ruined my new vagina, I was going to be upset!
Because I now had it, I wanted to keep it. I hoped that Dr. Kamol would visit today and change my dressings,
or at least make sure everything was OK.
But I did not see Dr. Kamol at all today.
Thursday, October 6th, 2005
When Jaruwan visited me again, I asked
her when Dr. Kamol would see me again.
She did not know, but we were both wondering why I had not seen him
yesterday. I wanted to know that my
healing vagina was OK.
Our catheter bags and drain bags need
to be emptied several times each day.
Even more frequently, a nurse took my vital signs: temperature, blood
pressure, and pulse. Despite their
limited English, my nurses made quite a bit of effort to keep me
reassured. Almost every time one took
my temperature, she would tell me ‘no fever’, and after taking my blood
pressure, she would say ‘normal’. I was
going to recover from this, and I looked forward to returning to the hotel on
Sunday.
They gave us two bed baths daily, and
two or three nurses would also come twice a day to clean the room and mop the
floor. The nurses fed us four times
daily: breakfast at 7:30, lunch shortly before noon, afternoon tea at 2PM, and
dinner shortly before or after 6PM.
They would also return after each meal to carry out our dishes and give
us our medicine, which we needed to take on full stomachs after our meals. I cannot compare Piyavate hospital food with
any other hospital, because I’ve never been admitted to any other hospital, but
some patients say that the food here is better than at hospitals much closer to
home.
As you can imagine, nurses frequently
visit us. Seldom did a whole hour pass
during the day or early evening without at least one person visiting us. Even a quiet and shy person like myself
benefits emotionally from being frequently visited by friends and those who
take care of us during our recovery. I
don’t know how it is in Thailand’s factories and other blue-collar workplaces,
but employees here and at the clinic always seem happy and content. Indeed, we were in the Land of Smiles. I always expressed gratitude whenever a
nurse came and performed any task in my room, even if she were only sweeping
the floor. These are happy and smiling
people, and they do appreciate verbal gratitude.
The hours passed, and Dr. Kamol still
had not showed up even by mid afternoon.
Was I going to wear this same dressing until I was six days
post-op? Sherry Marlene was also anxious
for Dr. Kamol to visit her. She had not
even seen him ever since she had come out of surgery.
At 5:30, Dr. Kamol finally showed
up! He was going to change my
dressings. When he removed my own
dressings, I looked down and tried to see my results. There was no hint of my former male genitals. I could only see the upper part of my new
genitalia, the upper suture lines along my outer labia, and something dark on
my upper labia. At this time I thought
that was my clitoris. But this was
actually my right inner labia, and post-op swelling was causing it to protrude
for now. I asked Dr. Kamol why my
clitoris was so far on my right side, and he told me it would settle in place
once my swelling diminished. He also
told me that I was healing OK.
As Dr. Kamol examined my healing
vagina, I could not believe how sensitive everything felt. I had mistaken my
right inner labia for a clitoris, but that still felt sensitive. In fact, the entire genital area feels so
sensitive. Oh, please be very
careful! I had the feeling that my new
genitals were going to be functional. I
didn’t see much tonight, but I sure felt quite a bit down there.
Sherry Marlene was also worried that
she hadn’t seen Dr. Kamol. I dialed her
room to give her the good news that our doctor was here to see us, and would
certainly come to her room very soon.
Then Dr. Kamol arrived in her room, and informed her about her own
surgical results.
How does a patient sleep with all of
these visitors? One or two nurses would
visit shortly after 9PM, empty the bags, and take our vital signs one last time. Then they would leave us alone until 5:30
the next morning. Still, it is
difficult to sleep in a strange place with some lingering discomfort from my
tubes, drains, a dull pain from the surgery itself, and butt sores from lying
down day and night for almost a whole week.
I would fall asleep shortly after the nurses made their last round
shortly after 9PM, but I would wake up only a few hours later, and then sleep
only occasionally for the rest of the night.
By mid-week my body had finally adjusted to Siamese time, and I avoided
afternoon naps, but I just could not get a full night of sleep in the hospital.
Friday, October 7th, 2005
I did not see Dr. Kamol today, but a
nurse did change my dressing at 10AM this morning. This time I had my hand mirror ready, so I could really look at
my new genitals. Almost everything was
still bruised violet, and there seemed to be something under my clitoris. No, that wasn’t my clitoris; that must be
one side of my inner labia protruding because of the swelling, my clitoris is
under my labia. My entire right side
appears much larger than the left. For
now my new genitals were swollen and bruised, and it was hard to imagine how
things would appear once my swelling subsided and the bruising faded. I would just have to wait for a little
while.
It is tricky to stay comfortable during
six days of bed confinement in a hospital.
I only had three choices of positions lying down, either on my back or
either of two sides. I may also have
the head of my bed inclined so I am sitting in bed. Women who have BA surgery along with their SRS may be even more
limited in their ability to lie in different positions. Both Sherry Marlene and I had to endure butt
sores. Sometimes the pain from
constantly lying on my butt exceeded the pain from my surgery.
On top of this, I struggled to keep the
room comfortable. Most of the time I
either froze or sweated. Our hospital
rooms were air conditioned, but room temperatures still varied. The morning sun would cause my room to feel
warmer from 6AM until noon. Whenever it
rained, our rooms would suddenly feel chilly.
This would have been quite difficult even if I were not still suffering from
hot flashes for not being on HRT since September 3rd.
Our nurses did make an effort to keep
us comfortable, but this seemed to be a lost cause. If a nurse observed that I felt chilly, she would adjust the
thermostat. But she might
unintentionally adjust it too far and have me sweating in a few minutes. If a nurse happened to notice I was sweating
whenever I suffered a hot flash, she might adjust the thermostat so that when
my hot flash had ended, I would freeze for a while.
I would usually freeze whenever the
nurses gave me my bed bath. One morning
they prevented my chills by turning off my air conditioner. This did keep me comfortable for the
duration of my bath, until the nurses finished and forgot to turn my air
conditioner back on. Soon, I was
sweating again. This was one of the
very few times I pressed my call button for a nurse, so I could have my air
turned on again. They were already
making quite an effort, and doing so much for me during my recovery, that I
felt badly about bothering them.
Besides, I just would not be able to find comfort until they released me
on Sunday. The nurses continued to turn
off my air conditioner for bath time, but after that one occasion, they always
remembered to turn it back on.
October 8th, 2005
I’ve made it through five days of my
mandatory bed confinement. I can’t wait
for tomorrow!
Bed confinement means that you have to
use a bedpan instead of walking to the toilet.
I was hoping that I would not have any movements until my sixth day
post-op, but today was only my fifth day, and it came. I don’t want to describe this gross
experience, but when it was over with, the nurses changed my sheets, opened my
window to air out the room with hot Bangkok air, and gave me a clean hospital
gown. Besides, it was time for my
afternoon bed bath anyway.
Some SRS surgeons fear that letting
patients out of bed early even for a few seconds jeopardizes the scrotal or
skin grafts, and insist on six days or so of bed confinement. Others are more concerned about blood clots
or thrombosis, and encourage their patients to walk a little bit, in some cases
even the day after surgery.
Dr. Kamol is one of the absolute bed
confinement surgeons. If you opt to
have SRS by only penile inversion without a scrotal graft, he will let you out
of bed a little sooner. But penile
inversion without the scrotal graft would have resulted in almost no depth for
me, so I had to accept both a scrotal and skin graft, and six full days of
absolute bed confinement.
I believe that I was in a good
hospital. Even the hospital food was
good. But no hospital is a pleasant
place to stay, and bed confinement is not fun.
Bed confinement does not mean bed rest.
Post-surgical pains, my catheter, drain, sutures pinching me, butt sores
from continuous lying down, always feeling too chilly or too hot, and being in
a strange place all prevented me from getting a good night’s sleep.
I listened to my CDs during most of my
hospital confinement. I had brought
Enya, Neil Diamond, Carly Simon, Fleetwood Mac, The Carpenters, and lots of
calming new age music. I talked with
Sherry Marlene on the phone. The
hospital TV had only a few English speaking channels. Sometimes I did watch CNN news.
Today I was hearing early reports about the devastating earthquake in
Pakistan.
Each afternoon a nurse would ask me to
choose from my menus for tomorrow’s meals.
I chose my breakfast and lunch for tomorrow, and afternoon tea just in
case I ended up staying late. Then I
tried to assure my nurse that I would be released tomorrow sometime before
dinner, and left the dinner page blank.
Sunday, October 9th, 2005
OK, Dr. Kamol said six days in bed, and
I had done his bidding. I hoped he
would come for me early today. I knew
that having all of that packing and tubes pulled out of me wouldn’t feel
pleasant, but I very much looked forward to being without them. Mostly I worried about not being able to
urinate, and needing to have the catheter re-inserted while I was awake.
Today was Jaruwan’s day off. I would miss seeing her, but I was happy
that she finally had time for herself and her family. She did so much for me and Dr. Kamol’s other patients. Angela was going to come this afternoon to
drive me back to the hotel.
I remained in bed for breakfast and
lunch. Finally, a male nurse arrived
with a bed, which he folded into a wheelchair, and asked me to walk over to
it. I felt a pins and needles sensation
as I stood on my feet for the first time in six days, and the nurse had to help
me a little bit. Then he wheeled me
down to the ground floor.
Dr. Kamol was in one of the small
rooms, in the area where I had first changed into my hospital gown and received
my tests when I had been admitted last Monday.
I walked a few more steps to his table.
I felt nervous as the doctor began to
remove my packing and everything else.
Mostly I felt pressure, and removing the tubes and packing felt more
weird than painful. Removing some of my
external stitches was more painful. He
did not remove all of my stitches today.
The catheter felt different from everything else. I was relieved that it only took five or six
seconds to remove the catheter, because that hurt, and I screamed.
Another nurse asked me to sit in a
wheelchair, and she wheeled me back up to the tenth floor. She started to take me back to my room, but
then she abruptly turned me around and wheeled me in the opposite
direction. She was taking me to visit
Sherry Marlene!
Sherry Marlene and I had talked on the
phone since she returned to her room last Wednesday, but now we saw each other
for the first time in five days. Dr.
Kamol came up to her room while I was there and removed her drain. We looked forward to Sherry Marlene’s
release tomorrow.
Eventually, I let the nurse wheel me
back to my room. I could have taken a
shower at this time, but I wanted to be ready when Angela arrived to drive me
to the hotel. So I just changed into my
own clothes for now. I had been
released from bed confinement just in time to avoid another gross experience
with the bedpan, and I went correctly.
I was able to urinate too, and was surprised that it didn’t seem to take
too much effort. I already felt
relieved that they would not have to reinsert my catheter while I was
awake. My afternoon tea snack arrived
before Angela did, so I ate this from the couch in my room. Another nurse came in while I was packing my
things. She sent me off with several
bottles of soda and bottled water, and even the thermometer she had been using
to take my temperature.
Angela helped me look around the room
to make sure I didn’t leave anything behind.
But I had to ride out of the hospital in a wheelchair. I went to the department of finance on the
first floor to reclaim my cash, cheques, and passport. The same Chinese woman who had arrived in
Bangkok one hour after me was also released today, and Angela drove both of us
back to the hotel. She still did not
talk to me.
I took my first post-op shower in my
hotel room. Mot of the discoloration of
my new genitals had already faded, but they were still quite swollen. I was never married, so I had never truly
looked at a vagina before, but with my legs together, I somehow felt that outer
labia already resembled an approximation of how female genitals should
appear. To see my corrected body in the
mirror, and feel corrected, was worth all of the trouble and stress I had
endured to accomplish this.
Those genitals were feeling sore,
because I had been standing for too long and I needed to lie down. I didn’t eat much dinner that night, because
the hospital had fed me so well, and I still felt full. I was tired. I had not had a good night’s sleep in almost two weeks. Now I had my first night in almost a week
without drains or a catheter, and I felt more relaxed in my hotel room than the
hospital. I feel asleep for a long time
tonight.
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