| ( Pop quiz for counseling sessions) The following is a prep to family counseling consultation; where by one can obtain an idea, As to what may be the under lying factors or contributing causes to depression, emotional dysfunction and anger mismanagement. What areas are needed to be addressed and how to address them. This questioner can be used for individuals who are having either anger management problems or other conflict issues. Weather it be family, marital, employment or relational.. “Ephesians 5:1 Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children; 6 Let no man deceive you with vain words: for because of these things comes the wrath of God upon the children of disobedience. Ephesians 6:1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. 2 Honor thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with a promise;) 3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. 4 And, you parents, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Proverbs 23:13 Withhold not correction from the child: for if you discipline him with the rod, he shall not die. 14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell. 19 Hear thou, my son, and be wise, and guide your heart in the way. 25 Thy father and thy mother shall be glad, and she that birth you shall rejoice. 26 My son, give me your heart, and let thine eyes observe my ways. “ Be angry and sin not” “ let not the sun go down while you are angry” For the teen or child: What is the definition of a good child _________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________ What is the definition of a good Parent _________________________________ _______________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________ What is God to you? In what way is God good to you? what would it take for God to be good to you? Does God have to do something or do you have to do something? __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________ _ ________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________ What does it take to be a real man? ___________________________________ ________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________ _ Realize anger is not wrong or sinful in itself but where the problem comes in is how we handle our anger? A. Utilize confession ( asking forgiveness and help ) ( John 1:9 If we confess our (anger) sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.) not repression,( to deny we are angry ) or suppression ( to hold anger in) or expression. ( to let anger out in violent or abusive words and actions) It may be helpful to ask ourselves why we are upset or what has made us angry: Many times there are underlying causes, or past issues other than the current reason, that we find our self getting upset so often? A. Some causes; feeling rejected, neglected, ignored, putdown, ridiculed, frustrated, criticized, or unappreciated. B. misinterpreting behavior or events, and circumstances etc. C. Past or recent childhood traumas, divorce, child abuse, financial stress, or loss of a loved one etc. Responsibility and authority lies with the provider and parent of the Home. It is God ordained! Beginning with the father then mother then child. No matter your place or position in the home your still a special person and valued by God! “ for you are a chosen person, a peculiar person, ..”you are accepted in the beloved” for he careth for you” Respect cannot be demanded it is earned! We qualify by our behavior and character. Respect Is a God given requirement. Respect comes with Responsibilities. Respect Is God ordained! God has given us the command to respect those whom are in authority over us, albeit the pastor, elders, parents or employers etc . We can and must respect the authority over us even if that authority is not exercising their authority correctly or consistently.. It is possible to respect the authority and still reject the behavior. Respect is a privilege not a right, we can and should respect each person and individual despite their failures and faults. We must realize that each individual is a person created by God in the image of God. Respect is reciprocal. Its a two way street, You get what you give, True Respect comes with true love. When we learn to love each other unconditionally we will then learn to respect one another despite our differences. “ love thy neighbor as thyself” This primer to counseling : was prepared by Rev. George R. Nava. for further info. or consultation reach me at 2170 E. Market St. Stk, Ca-95205 209 465-9731 |