Is it good ?
Well, if I narrow it a little bit into "the sensitivity to others",
how would you clarify it?
My friends sometimes tell me that they are sensitive
to other people's feelings, especially sadness.
And my friends are hesitated to let those people know that they can, empathetically, feel those people's emotions.
When you see your friend and you can feel
that the person is sad or frustrated,
will you let him or her know about your notice?
Well, it may be appropriate to reflect the empathy; however, a lot of individuals refuse to be recognized that they are in depress or in troubles.
How about you?
Do you prefer an empathy from someone behind you?
In my opinion, most women will be happy and feel warm when they know that there is a person showing that he or she can understand how they are feeling right now.
A lot of women do not want a suggestion. They just want someone who listens to them and understands them.
Thus if you have a female friend or family member, and she is sad or anxious about something, your "sensitivity to others" may make you recognize that.
I think it is not that bad at all to express that you can touch her feelings. I think this would help her even you might say nothing to her. Touching her and sending your empathy through your eyes are just great for women.
How about men?
I believe that most humans need empathy, not only women.
I am not talking about supports or good comments.
I am talking about using your sensitivity pratically and effectively, for people near you.
Someone I know confessed to me that he wants to be understood also. Unfortunately, he feels embarrassed to accept that he is in sadness or in troubles.
He told that many guys are shamed to themselves when a moman tells them that they are depressed. They feel like the woman is emphasizing that they lost their strength and capacity.
Well, it is possible that a man can think like this.
I then asked him "how about you?"
"If you are frustrated and confused,
you cannot even see a thing to solve your problem, you feel that you cannot breath,
and you know it is time for disaster in your life,
how do you feel ?
when someone lets you know that he or she understands your situations and lets you know that he or she will be with you whatever will happen?"
He was thinking in silence seriously for almost five minutes. He then replied that "that will make me feel ... good."
If you are one of people who want to be understood empathically by others, you will comprehend how good it is. So please take some actions when your "sensivity to others" tells you that someone you love is anxious or stressful.
You are probably dealing with a person who may feel that you are looking down on him with your empathy.
I personally believe that this guy may not trust your empathy. He may be questioning whether your empathy is real.
Again, I believe that we all want the empathetic understanding and feel good when someone is willing to be there for us.
So don't keep your "sensitivity to others" working silently.
Let's make it more useful.
And you may see
"the world is more interesting than you expected."
Wish everybody feels good
Ja
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