which make me think about where they are from?
Where and why these conflicts and disagreements occur?
Ummmmmmmmmmm
Like Carl Rogers said, people perceive things and selves uniquely and differently from another.
When two persons are blaming to each other,
why "you" does not understand what "I" am thinking and feeling right now.
Why do "you" have a stupid idea like that?
Why do "I" have to tell "you" many times what "I" mean?
Why don't "you" understand "my" points of view?
Because "I" and "you" perceive situations differently and interpret them differently, it is very difficult to expect the other to understand the way we respond
and the way we perceive the information.
When I was a junior, one of my teacher showed me a round rock, which had two shades, light and dark.
My teacher said that if we looked at one side and assume that the rock has only one shade, we might misjustify other people's behaviors and ideas.
The fact is that we do not know hidden reasons of another person. Even we do know that, we may interprete those reasons inaccurately, not like the owner does by him/herself.
Another important factor is about learning from childhood, how a person looks at him/herself, how a person perceives the world and surrounding.
Easily speak, people have different backgrounds, which build and develop their thinking processes and attitudes.
We may not change the way people think toward the world and another people; nevertheless,
we can understand that we are different
and accept that we are different,
then take a moment to think
how to clarify our views by using their words,
and how to understand their views by using our words.
When I am typing to this sentense,
I feel that it is not easy at all to make people understand in the same thing.
It takes time, sincerely.
But do not expect that only TIME will help if you keep doing nothing to clarify the conflicts.
Unfortunately, time and doing something seem to be useless for people who have a great differences in background and cognitive processes.
The best thing I can say for today is that
understand that we are different
and accept that we are different.
Possibly, you may forgive someone easier than you expected.
Have a peaceful day
Ja
April 2nd, 2003
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