If for any reason you feel that you need to talk to your young children about awful things that may have happened to you in the past, as a child and/or talk to them of the problems you now are experiencing as an adult. Then I strongly urge you to ask your family doctor to recommend you to a good Psychiatrist!
Your children are NOT here to console you; you are here to console them! You should never dump your insecurities, problems or sorrows on them, they don't need to hear about it, nor do they take pleasure in it. This is a constant burden on them!
It's time you take a stand right now, for the sake of our children to STOP playing these harmful games and take responsibility for your actions.
STOP stressing about all the phenomenally positive things that are going on in someone else's home and start getting the help you need to make your own home as great and positive for our children!
Other reasons you may NEED to start seeing a Psychiatrist, though there are so many. Is when you have need to make your child's parent and/or Stepparent look bad or ugly, so you may feel better about your own mistakes. You have to understand that what ever bad or ugly thing your child's parent and/or Stepparent has done, your child will not take notice of but will in fact be very aware of how bad and ugly YOU are acting while doing so! Children are not stupid, in fact, very smart and one day they will see the "entire" picture.
My husband and I are very fortunate to have my stepchildren find out for themselves at an early age, but also unfortunate for them, that they have to go through this at all! My husband and I go by the rule that you never badmouth the other parents/stepparents, No matter how appalling our situation gets with BM badmouthing us to the kids, yet I don’t understand why or how BM thinks my husband and I are the one’s being hurt by her nonsense, because he and I pretty much get a good laugh about it and then move on. The only one’s being hurt by your foolish games and I really can’t stress this enough, are the CHILDREN! When situations occur, like the kids saying something like: BM said bla, bla, bla! Then ask us is this true? We simply assure them that we are not bothered at all by what BM say’s about us, the only time we will get upset by BM’s words, is if it effects and/or hurts you. Also we explain that we would rather not reply to BM’s drama, because you will just end up feeling like you need to choose sides and we don’t believe you should have to choose between us.
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A few unpleasant situations our children are being put through.
