Frequently Asked Questions
and Information about the Society

 

 

 

General Discussion

It should be noted that each and every event hosted by the Society is subject to the specific wants and needs of our Society females overseeing and hosting that particular event.  The events may be more of a social gathering that provides much less restricted rules applying to the nude male servers to a much more rigid and formal set of requirements wherein male servers are not allowed to speak unless in the course of discharging their duties, or when spoken to.   It is therefore important to understand the intention and desires of the Ladies hosting the event, what is required, and how they envision the event to proceed. 

The Tea Party Society is not only about having "High Teas" and Tea Parties featuring naked slaveboy servers, but also promotes and explores clothed-female/naked-maled (CFNM) parties in general, provided they are organized and hosted for the sole enjoyment and pleasure of the women attending, and, full nudity is mandatory exclusively for all males present.  Following is an on-line link to an interview for an E-zine magazine conducted by Ms. Elise Sutton with Ms. Diane, which describes the history of CFNM parties.  This interview discusses the rules and ambience surrounding some of these parties:

An Interview with Ms. Diane - CFNM Party Review

 

FAQ's

Q: Are Tea Parties hosted by dommes and are they about domination and humiliation of men?

A: No, not necessarily, although a good number do feature BDSM and female supremacy themes.  The first Tea Party with Naked Slaveboys hosted in the San Francisco Bay Area (see links to Tea Parties for a discussion) was not about domination, nor do they ever have to be.  The naked slaveboys were indeed put in a role of quiet servitude, not allowed to speak until spoken to, and provided the women services requested such as waiting upon them, cleaning, providing bulter services, brushing their hair and offering hand and feet massages.  But these servers were adored and relished by these women, and treated well.  It was done as much tongue-in-cheek with all having a wonderful time.  Other CFNM type events have occurred that are also not in the traditional BDSM/female domination genre of erotic pursuits.  Thus, the answer is they aren't necessarily about D/s and interacting with subservient men.

Many women that have come to Tea Parties are there not because of interests in BDSM nor in being a Domme.  In fact, we are targeting for Society members women more interested in coming to enjoy friendly conversation, sharing of experiences, discussion of fashion trends and being pampered and treated like royalty with any inclination towards BDSM being immaterial.  

However, the very nature of putting women in such a high standing and position of control over men lends itself to attracting members from the BDSM lifestyle.   Nudity can create vulnerability and exposure that D/s enjoy exploiting over their subs.  Thus, some Tea Parties may indeed include BDSM activities while still being consistent with the precepts of our Society.  Some of the Tea Party members may engage in "BDSM lite" wherein there is control and a level of female supremacy permeating throughout the event whereas others (such as the New York Tea Parties) have become strictly BDSM environments including whipping of the tea servers when they failed in their duties. Our forum and discussions are not guided by the lifestyle, nor are they mutually exclusive to the lifestyle.  Instead, BDSM is just one flavor of Tea Parties we invite our members to discuss and explore, but certainly are not the entirety of flavors in which Tea Parties occur.  The key is to organize the event around a consistent theme and set of rules all members can abide by while still enjoying the event.

 

Q:  Is there ever any sexual activities or conduct at Tea Parties?

A:  It is a general rule of virtually all tea societies and CFNM parties that no sexual activities occur at the parties and events.

 

Q: Am I allowed to touch or fondle any of the servers?

A:  A good number of the tea societies and parties preclude this.  But other CFNM parties do. This depends upon the rules and conditions set by your hostess.  Historically, most tea parties have strictly forbade any such contact; however, more recently we have witnessed parties organized wherein flirtatious prick teasing is standard fair, including such physical contact.  We have posted discussions of such events on our forum's board, along with photos in the photo section.   Part of the purpose for our discussion forum is to allow like-minded women of similar interests to meet, form a Party, and set their own rules.

 

Q:  Do tea servers ever get erections?

A: Yes, although it is not common.  Most tea parties stress the professionalism required of its naked tea boy servers, however, some men cannot help but to find the experience exhilarating.  Whether or not it is an issue depends upon the theme and ambiance of the event.  Usually, it is understood that if a server gets an erection, he must still carry out his duties despite his obvious condition to all there.  Ladies usually do not draw attention to it.  Conversely, some women enjoy observing a particular server with an erection and his predicament will create amusement for them - they might even draw attention to it for the delight of other women.  One hostess of tea parties with a BDSM/female supremacy theme indicates that if she observes a naked serve with an erection, she will require him to stand in front of all the Ladies while she draws their attention to his erection and then reprimands him about it in front of them so they can all delight of her humiliating him about his inability to control his urges.  It is only when they have all observed his erect member drop back to a flaccid state that she permits him to resume his services for them.  Another hostess simply has the server leave immediately without ever drawing attention to it.  And in some situations, we've heard from hostesses that would require him to stand in front of the ladies and perform self pleasuring measures as they watched, and upon completion, he would clean up himself and his spill and then resume his services - this way he would no longer have such urges. 

Erections are a natural biological process that simply means the man is finding the activities arousing, which he sometimes cannot control.  It can be a trick played upon him by the females intentionally prick teasing him to put him in an embarrassing state in front of everyone and for their laughter and amusement, or, it might be considered by the hostess as an unacceptable display of lack of control thus jeopardizing his continued service.  It just depends upon the theme and direction of the party set by the hostess and Ladies.  It is recommended these potential matters be discussed and understood by all prior to the party such that they already know how they will (or won't) handle the situation (no pun intended).

 

Q:  What services to the servers provide?

A:  Standard services are cleaning services before and after the Party, food preparation, serving tea and other libations, serving hors d'oeuvres, brushing hair, hand and foot massages, and other services typically provided by butlers, maids and waiters.   Some Parties (more indicative of CFNM parties) may have the nude servers line up for comparison of their physical attributes.  If the hostess and Ladies are amenable to it, a cock judging contest, prick teasing contest and the like may occur.  However, these type of activities are generally not enjoyed by women that are more into female superiority and BDSM activities as such activities indulge in th sexual aspects of the nude male as opposed to placing the servers in a subservient role emphasized by their nudity.  Such indulgences may be a fun part of the Tea Party, or, not tolerated, depending upon the theme and intent.  Your Tea Party in this regards should be what you and other women attending want, not about rules created for others.

 

Q:  I am a male, how do I become a server?

A: First, get yourself a full and complete Yahoo! email and profile.  Make sure you post photos of yourself (they need not be nude photos).  Describe yourself and interests and any special talents.  Join our discussion forum and put your photos in the photo section in an album created just for you and post your information in the Database.  We do NOT want cock shots, and posting just cock shots on your profile picture will certainly put you at the bottom of the list (it basically tells us you're just a dick, nothing more).

 

Q:  I am a male, and have a small penis.  Is that an issue?

A:  We don't know, is it?  If you are comfortable with your lack of endowment on open display for many women to view, then you certainly should apply.   Having a big cock is usually not a selection criterion, as there are so many other important attributes we look for.  A man with a small penis may have many talents and a great accommodating attitude that puts him at the top of the list (well, close anyway).

 

Q:  I'm a male, married, and don't want my wife to find out.  Can I still apply?

A:  Ask you wife, and if she writes you a note....  Seriously, we would not be pleased with anyone being involved in any of the Society activities knowing that it is in violation of a lifelong pact they have made with their spouse.  If we learn of such, you'll be banned immediately.  But here's a thought - break the subject to your spouse.  You may be surprised in that you end up attending the event as a couple!  Of course, you could begin your training at home with her, and that's sure to get you points!

 

Q:  Are cameras allowed?

A: Again, these are rules that vary, but in general, yes.  We believe cameras should be allowed with at the very least, a designated photo area established.  Ladies desiring having souvenir photos can then request a server(s) to have photos taken with her.  This is what occurred at the original Naked Slaveboy Tea Party a number of years ago, and a photo taken with author Lisa Palac was as follows:

If the Ladies hosting the party wish to have photos taken, then it is suggested letting potential server applicants know of this desire.  Give them the opportunity to either accept the fact they will be photographed in the  nude, or, attempt to serve at an alternate party where such photos are not allowed.  And a note to the guys - if the women want a photographer at the event, do not whine or complain that you're worried others (including a wife) may see it - it is their rules, and either accept it, or withdraw your application.  Many male servers not only enjoy being photographed, but will want such keepsakes for themselves as well.

 

Q:  I'm an interested female wanting to attend, but would feel more comfortable attending my first Tea Party with some female friends.  May I invite them?

A:  Absolutely!  Having friends with you will make the event more fun and help break the ice with other women.  There is only one caveat, and that is, they should read through this entire website, know exactly what your hostess plans, and then be willing and enthused about attending.  Dragging someone along because you want to come even though she doesn't will lessen the experience for you and cast negativity on interaction she has at the Party with others. 

 

Q:  I'm single, and am hopeful I might meet someone of the opposite gender.  Is this out of the question?

A:  If you are looking for a heterosexual hookup - the events aren't designed for hooking up with other singles.  However, depending upon the interaction allowed between servers and Ladies, your hostess may be able to put in a word to the other individual your interested, maybe offering to exchange emails on your behalf.  Unfortunately, the Party environment will not provide a good venue for conversation and getting to know someone else.

If you are bisexual or other, then yes, you may indeed meet a prospective partner of the same gender.  Lesbians and bisexuals do indeed attend Tea Parties.

 

Q:  I'm a dominant female/male sub, and want to find a partner, is this the place?

A:  Again, the environment is not designed to "interview" and meet dommes and subs.  If you have an interest in anyone particular at the Party, mention your interest to the hostess and see if she would be willing to follow up with that individual subsequent to the Party.

 

 


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