Rule #1       Do not date any guy that was in a previous relationship or relationship alternative with a friend or family member. *This rule can be pronounced void if the relationship was a considerable amount of time in the past and permission is received, or if the friend is not or was not at the time a close friend. Rule #2       Never sacrifice a friendship for any guy. Friendships last longer, and usually offer more support. *This rule can be lessened in extreme circumstances, such as if the person isn't a close friend, but an acquaintance. Rule #3       Always use extreme caution when dating guys that have previously cheated on girlfriends or had numerous girlfriends at one time. *If the case is extreme, such as with an established player, avoid dating all together. Rule #4       Do not, under any circumstances, agree to re-date any guy that has undoubtedly cheated on you in the past. Also be careful to re-date even if the cheating was not confirmed, but strongly obvious. Rule #5       Do not cheat while in relationships, even if the relationship means little to you or if the guy has cheated on you. If you do this, it makes you no better than the guy, possibly worse. Rule #6       Never knowingly get into a relationship or relationship alternative with a guy that has already got one or more girlfriends. Never become "the other girl." Rule #7       After a recent break up wait a standard amount of time before dating someone else. Wait until the mourning period is over so that there is no subconscious chance of using another guy as revenge or as replacement affection. *The standard time to wait is one third of the time you actually dated. If the relationship was considerably long or there were intense feelings, it is recommended to wait anywhere from one third to one half of the time. The standard amount of time can also be skipped entirely if the relationship had little or no meaning. Rule #8       Do not break up with a guy in order to go out with someone else unless there is another underlying cause. Even then, be careful about the situation, and wait the standard amount of time before dating someone else. Rule #9       Use caution when dating a guy that has become a best friend, or a guy that you have been friends with for a long period of time. If this does occur, be prepared for the friendship to end all together, or for things to change dramatically. Very rarely will things remain the same, and if they do, it takes time to reestablish the friendship. Rule #10       The "Three Strikes and You're Out" theory applies to all dating situations. Never date a guy more than three times, and attempt to avoid that many if possible. Rule #11       Never give in to what a guy wants if it is not what you want, even if he uses those three little words that seem to mean more than they actually do. *This rule goes both ways. You, likewise, should not try to get a guy to give in to something he does not want. Rule #12       If at all possible, avoid causing pain or distress when breaking up with a guy. *This rule can be pronounced void if the guy has done considerable damage himself, such as cheating. In this case, you should make an attempt towards causing embarrassment or damage. Rule #13       When in a relationship alternative, avoid leading a guy to believe that there is more to the situation than there actually is. Rule #14       Never expect a guy to love you. Even if he says it once, do not think he'll always mean it. Love is precious, but not forever. Rule #15       Do not put up with any mistreatment from guys. If the treatments persists, the relationship is going nowhere. Rule #16       Never sacrifice any beliefs, standards, expectations, or morals for any guy. This includes qualities you look for in a guy, or in a relationship. Rule #17       In the beginning of a new relationship, take things slowly. Do not discuss the length of the relationship, love, marriage, obligations or responsibilities. Rule #18       Do not have a guy make a promise to not cheat or to always love you. These promises are impossible to keep in tempting situations. If you feel you need the security, have the guy promise to always tell you if he ever stops loving you or ever cheats on you. Rule #19       Do not make promises unless you intend to keep them, and do always keep your promises. Your promise is your word, and if your word is no good, neither are you. Rule #20       All rules are pronounced null and void if they greatly interfere with your happiness.       All rulz are basically designed to prevent emotionally and physically damaging situations. If by chance a rule is broken, make sure to learn from mistakes and bad experiences. Like most things in life, these rulz go both ways. Treat others as you want to be treated. Rule #20 should not be taken lightly, it is for extreme circumstances. When unsure if which path to follow in a relationship or friendship, follow your conscience through logical reasoning. This was written by my best friend and I when I was 15 years old. Back to the main page