| (Non) Judgement |
| There can be few things harder in this Physical Life than adopting and actually experiencing a non-judgemental attitude and lifestyle. Making judgements upon others and ourselves seems to be a way of life for most of us, and yet, passing judgement is one of the most harmful attitudes that we can have. In judging others, we lay blame at their feet, causing them to feel guilt, unnecessarily. In judging ourselves we lay blame at our own feet and experience guilt, unnecessarily. The ease with which we apportion blame/responsibility causing guilt is alarming. We live in a "Blame Culture" and breaking free is hard, very hard. The Psychological and Spiritual harm caused by the blame culture is immeasurable and it is a cycle from which we must endeavour to escape. The question then, is, HOW??? We must understand that every individual is trying to live their Life in the best way possible according to their understanding and perspective, just as we are living our Lives in exactly the same way. Others do not make mistakes intentionally, just as we do not. Most of the time others hurt or harm others unintentionally, same story for us. When others react with anger, it is down to fear that is based on a fear of loss of control over one or more aspects of life, just like us. Others weigh up the information they have and make decisions based on that and only that (plus a little intuition perhaps), in good faith, just like us. Others take a long time to make their decisions and give them much thought, just like us. Others do not expect us to pass judgement on, or crticise their wrong decisions, they expect support, just like us. When others are unable to make a decision, they are confused as to which direction to take and hope for constructive advice, just like us. Others expect to be treated as equals, just like us. When others are wronged by us they expect an immediate apology or explanation, just like us. When others do us wrong they expect that their apology/explantion will be accepted unreservedly, just like us. Others expect us to agree to disagree, just like us. Others expect us to accept that they have learned from their mistake, just like us. The list could go on and on and on, but basically, if you apply the above to daily Life and to every interaction you will be well on the way to a Non-Judgemental Attitude and State of Mind. |
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