"Everybody can be great because anybody can serve..
You only need a heart full of grace and a soul generated by love."

- Martin Luther King Jr.

5/16/00 Happy Martyr's Day.

"Is it me?..... or is it hot in here?"

Saturday was Calvin's first communion, which was another opportunity for me to dodge the two questions: "Why aren't you Catholic Dad?" and "Then, why do I have to be?" I don't have anwers to the questions...I just reminded him that there were some good basketball playoff games on TV.

Sunday was mother's day, the kids and I got Monica a pair of inline skates: I'm still not sure if it's: a great way to get Monica more active, and feel better about herself - or an invitation to blunt head trauma. Actually the safe money is on - the third option: The skates never actually see the light of day...maybe in the year 2020 Calvin will have a pair of mint condition "size 8.5 women's retro rollerblades" listed on ebay.

I went and saw "Dr.Feelgood the shrink" today. He congratulated me a couple of times... a lotta people have mentioned that I sound different(read:better), and some readers of this journal have even sent me letters of encouragement! The headshrinker described why I sound different. He said that I stopped bitching and moaning because I have recieved validation that I was looking for; others on the outside of my situation agree that I am not the problem.
"yes Ken.... you are the victim."

So there is no reason left for me to be the martyr. The one who does all the laundry, cooking dishes,etc.
It's now Ken's turn to be a little selfish, a little cheauvanistic.
The Doc even said, "You are doing what is expected for your gender role - You are the bread winner.."
"Monica has chosen", he continued, "to be the child-rearing partner, and she is not holding up her end of the bargain.."

"halleluja brother."

 

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