A
MARRIED WOMAN’S GUIDE TO A HAPPIER MORE FULFILLING RELATIONSHIP
Introduction; Courtship and Romance
“All
marriages are happy. It's living together afterwards that is difficult.”
Anonymous
Once
upon a time, you'll remember, your husband would bring you flowers, open doors
for you and generally offer you his open and sincere heart. If your marriage is
like most marriages it has grown comfortable and, let's admit it, stale, over
time. “The thrill is gone,” is the lament of so many married couples.
Familiarity and routine, recriminations and disappointments, take a predictable
toll on happy-every-after relationships. Husbands and wives drift apart,
physically and emotionally, or maintain alliances of custom and convenience,
keepers of a flickering flame. By the time you hit midlife, your marriage is
“settled” and most often things start to cool down. Certain aspects become
repetitive as people take each other for granted. The love may still be there
but it is a less passionate, more platonic love; a familiar love. In the most
negative instances this can lead to increasing unhappiness and frustration and
ultimately, in the worst case scenario, infidelity and divorce. Even in the
best cases, I will offer, it is less of a marriage than it could be.
If
you don't believe me, allow me to refresh your memory a little. I am now
talking to women who are married or who were married before. Remember when you
were first dating? Remember how accommodating your future husband was and how
all his desires were directed at you? Think back... Remember how he was so
sweet and kind. Remember how he used to bring you flowers or little gifts? He
would do whatever you wanted to do and go wherever you wanted to go. Do you
remember what it was like, how exciting it all was? Remember your wedding day,
and the love and romance of your honeymoon? Remember that? Remember how
much you loved him then? Let me ask you this. Has it changed? If so, what do
you think changed?
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