This is where it gets really complicated ......
As I mentioned earlier, TVs may be entirely straight, entirely gay or bisexual. However there does seem to be a sub-set of TVs who, while they are attracted to the feminine and are predominantly heterosexual, find that they are attracted to other TVs 'en femme', although not to men who present as exclusively male. I hesitate to refer to such people as bisexual, because while they may find the sight of an attractive TV in full female mode very arousing, the very same person when he's dressed and acting as a male will leave them completely unmoved.
A TV who falls into this category (who may even meet regularly with other TVs for the express purpose of having sex), although he's quite well aware that the object of his lust is a biological male, will often deny that he has any leanings towards homosexuality. There seems to be a strong element of fantasy coming into play here, perhaps based on the clothes, make-up, and other trappings of femininity rather than on the person wearing them, and many TVs will freely admit that fantasy plays a very large part in this side of their lives.
I'm not going to pretend to understand this - I've been unable to find details of any formal research into this particular byway of male sexuality, and most TVs I've spoken with about it confess that they don't understand it either! My own view, for what it's worth, is that these are basically heterosexual men with a powerful sex drive and an unusually strong response to visual stimuli and sexual fantasy, which latches onto the feminine in all its forms and can be aroused by the sight of, for example, a shapely pair of legs in sheer stockings, regardless of the biological gender of the owner of those legs.
There's also another sub-group of TVs who are more straightforwardly bisexual, in that while they may be sexually attracted to women, they also enjoy sex with non-TV men while 'en femme'. I think there's a strong fantasy element involved here too, in that this kind of TV finds his 'femininity' strengthened and reinforced by being desired by a non-TV man, and in taking the female role in a sexual encounter.
My husband is a TV of the type who finds other TVs sexually desirable, and he feels that what he is actually attracted to is the mixture of masculine and feminine displayed by such people. Although he is in no way turned on by non-TV men, and he and I have a perfectly normal heterosexual relationship, he freely admits to being bisexual where other TVs are concerned, inasmuch as what he desires from them is effectively gay sex.
We've dealt with this issue by agreeing to have an open relationship as far as his transvestism is concerned. I've accepted his need to allow 'Trisha' some sexual freedom, he in his turn understands that I married Nick rather than Trisha and has always been honest and open with me about what he's doing, when and with whom, and we've found that this is a workable compromise for us. It's not one which is going to work for every couple, however, and I certainly wouldn't presume to recommend it to anyone else - it takes a lot of trust and honesty on both sides, and can only succeed if both of you are fully comfortable and content with it, and prepared to work quite hard on the 'give-and-take' involved.
Not all TVs are attracted to or want to have sex with men or with other TVs, and if your partner is one of those who doesn't then this is unlikely to be a problem for you. It's probably something you'll want to talk about, however, and decide between you where you stand and what your boundaries are.
In conclusion
I hope very much that reading this has helped in some way to steer you through the initial shock, distress and confusion of discovering your partner's transvestism, and shown you that it is perfectly possible to have and maintain a happy, fulfilling and successful long-term relationship with a TV. I hope even more that you and your TV man will eventually find the fun, enjoyable aspects of the TV world that you can share with one another, and that you'll realise that you have an understanding and trust in each other which many 'normal' couples never manage to achieve. For myself, I wouldn't have it any other way......
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