Girly gear packed? Ready to drive to your meeting place and fling yourself into your lover's arms? Remember that you're about to have sex with another man. Remember she'll also sound like a man which is something that still catches me out for some reason! Now if you can't handle all of this, you're not ready, you really arent.......
Something that follows on from that is the fact that at least one of you may be dressed as a guy when you first meet. Now, if you're a girl who likes guys, that's no problem necessarily, is it? Just make sure that its you who's hosting or have booked the hotel room. That way you can be completely prepared, made up, and smelling like a fresh rose (or a Turkish bordello, if that turns you on). But if you're meeting another TV, you need to work out your attitude up front. If she's experienced, she's probably used to seeing some bloke turn up and transform. It's one of the many reasons I'd always suggest starting out with someone who's done all this before. If you feel you can't handle seeing her 'en bloke' then you should have sorted that out up front and made appropriate arrangements. If it's your first time ever, it's probably better to see your new friend en femme from the start - far less of a shock to the system unless you've had bisexual experiences already. It's been my personal experience that it doesn't matter how often you do this stuff, it's always a little bit strange at first when one or both of you is wearing masculine clothes. But one gets used to it and it certainly doesn't freak me out. In fact I've started to find it just slightly strange NOT to see someone in guy mode at some stage in the meeting. All part of the thing about learning about yourself ........
Let's assume you can handle it - you're just about to have an amazing experience! I can't offer any more words of advice except two little words -SAFE SEX! Just because you're both bisexual doesnt mean that HIV isnt a danger. If you're going to have penetrative sex, you must wear condoms. If it's oral it's a more difficult call. I don't. Its considered a relatively low risk. Up to you. But before you make your decision, make sure you read up on it and make a decision based on information. I'd strongly advise that you agree on safe sex rules up front before you meet, because if your lover decides they want to go bareback (or wants you to) when you're in the throes of passion, it's a whole lot harder to say 'no'. And you must do so. Ok if you're single and want to take the risk - your problem. But if you're married or in a steady relationship? Well, why should your wife or partner die of AIDS because of your stupidity?
Just to wrap all of this up, and because it's a personal site, I'd like to share my own first experience with you. It might help you feel less nervous (and no, I dont have the pics.....)
Go To Trisha's First