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The FAQ Page
1)
Why should I
be chaste?
You should be chaste because you have
self-respect, respect for others, and because your body is a
2)
How will not
being chaste affect future relationships?
Would you rather have a brand new car or one
that’s been driven by lots of people and misused? The same is true with God’s gift of
sexuality… He created it for us to give to one person – our future husband or
wife – not to share it with many people. Think of your future spouse. Save yourself for the relationship and love
that will last a lifetime. If you save
your gift of sexuality for your true love in marriage, it will mean so much
more to you! It will mean so much more
to your spouse who realizes that you saved yourself just for him/her!
3)
How can I
avoid temptation?
Dark rooms where you’re completely
alone is just fine for closet decorators, but definitely not with someone
you’re really attracted to. The main
idea is just to stay away from situations where you have a strong feeling that
your strong feelings may get the best of you.
Hanging out in a group is awesome- no pressure at all, you can feel
comfortable and really get to know the person, because you will both be at
ease. Dating in public places like
coffee shops, movies, malls, friend’s houses, etc will also reduce the
temptation and focus the relationship on building communication and friendship.
4)
What if I find
myself in a compromising situation?
If you manage to find yourself in a
compromising situation, then…Get out, fake a headache, or pray! It may be hard to say no at first, but if the
other person truly loves you they will understand and respect you, and even be
glad that you’re looking out for them!
And if they don’t respect your wishes, then maybe it’s time to question
their motives. Indeed.
5)
What if the
guy/girl won’t stop pressuring me to have sex?
If your significant other keeps
pressuring you for premarital sex, then perhaps it’s time to reevaluate your
relationship. Love looks out for the other person; pressuring someone for sex,
or for anything else, is not looking out for the other person. It’s selfish.
Pray for the courage to stand for your values. Don’t do something now that you’ll regret
later; don’t give something away now that you’ll wish you had saved for your
spouse.
6)
How far is too
far?
Anything you do for self-gratification is
going too far. Holding hands, kissing on
the cheek, a quick kiss on the lips, and hugging are fairly safe. Keep in mind that these could lead to other
things, which are not so innocent. This
is why it’s important to clearly define your limits very early in a
relationship. French kissing isn’t good,
because it starts the process of joining two bodies to one, without completing
the process. French kissing is at the
top of a very slippery slope that leads into some very bad stuff, when engaged
in outside of the context of marriage.
7)
How can I
determine whether I’m acting out of love or lust?
Love is patient. If you feel anxious to begin a physical
relationship with someone right off the bat, then it’s most likely a lustful
motivation. Love is totally concerned
with the other person’s well being. If you do something just because it “feels
good,” it’s probably not love.
8)
How can
alcohol affect my relationship?
Alcohol lowers inhibitions and makes it more
difficult to resist temptation and maintain self-control. You may not even realize what you’re doing
when you’re intoxicated - which could result in you participating in things you
would not do sober! Indeed, again.
9)
What is wrong
with birth control?
What isn’t wrong with birth control?! The Pill is an abortifacient,
which means that it has a mechanism that kills a fertilized egg – a baby! – by
preventing it from attaching to the walls of the uterus, it can also cause
ectopic pregnancies. Not to mention, the
birth control pill was promoted by Margaret Sanger, who founded Planned
Parenthood and sought to wipe out the “inferior” races – minorities, the
impoverished, and criminals. Sex was
created to unite a married couple and to work with God in the creation of
life! Anything that interferes with that
is um, well, wrong. Using contraception
leaves God out of the equation.
10)
What if I mess
up/make a mistake?
Secondary Virginity! If you know you made a mistake, and you are
sorry for it and want to avoid making the same mistake, that’s AWESOME! Meet God in the Sacrament of Confession and
renew your virginity/purity. Just
because you messed up once, does not mean you have to mess up again. Learn from
your mistakes and inspire others to do the same. Check out our prayers page, too! J
Indeed.
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