| Why people may do it |
| Everybody who self harms does it for their own reasons, so this is just a generalisation. There is no way I can give you the deep insights in youself or a person you know who does it, but I can explain the best I can about what self harming brings to people. One of the reasons why self harm confuses people is because when they see the scars they just see mark left behind. The scars, bruises and marks left by self harm are not the problem, they are the method that is helping the person to cope. It is not the best way in which cope (the term here used by consellors is it is a negative way of coping), it is not the worst way, it's just that there are more positive ways. To help a person who self harms to have to help them find a more positive way of coping. |
| The thing that is generally not remembered by relatives or friends when they find out someone they love is self harming, is that it is a way of coping that is why they do it. They are not doing it to get at you, it's not about anyone else, it is about them and how they are feeling. like shit. The person's pain builds up and up until the pressure is so high that it has to be released. The pain is to big to be kept inside a human body, it has to have a valve to burst out of. Thats where the self harm comes in. I cut. I cut to let the pain out. I cut because cutting caused physical pain afterwards, it caused a pain I could understand. The emotional pain was too big and too much for me to cope with. Looking, and seeing a mark that hurt made more sense. |
| Cutting never hurt at the time. The body release endorphins so that it actually causes a rush, which can become addictive. For me it was the only time when I felt human. The rest of the time I was one of the walking dead, but when I cut, my emotions rushed to the surface along with the blood. Then I could cry, then I seem to get some insight into why I felt like this. As time went by I needed to cut deeper and deeeper as the cutting took control. Superficial cuts didn't work anymore, I had to have blood pouring down my arm and dripping off for it to work. But the cutting kept me going. |
| Support for self harmers |
| You are not alone. You are strong enough to get through this. You don't have to go through this alone, you deserve to have some support, and you can have it. Now as we keep saying we are not professionals but here is a list of people who are and who can help. *There's the list of phone no.s on the first page of people such as the samaritans *other websites that are full of information about self harm are; secret shame self harm alliance self injury these sites will probably give you more information than we ever can. For me the subject still runs a little too close to home. |
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