Question on Shunning


We were discussing different Scriptures one I would like to stay with is in Matt 18:15-17 (taken from the NASB)

"If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private, if he listens to you, you have won your brother"
"But if he does not listen to you, take one or two more with you, so that by the mouth of two or three witnesses every fact may be confirmed."
"If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church, if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector'.

Matt 18:15-17a is what the JW's use to handle a df'ing, (In theory although the publishers really don't have a say in it as this scripture would suggest, but that's another post entirely) back to the point!!!! Does Jesus say to disfellowship them?? remember we're talking about his one passage!!! HOW DID HE SAY TO TREAT SUCH ONES?

'let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector'.

OK so HERE is the Question what did Jesus mean by the above vs. How he treated them??? or how the Pharisees treated them??

(them being Gentiles and tax collectors)

Jesus ate with Gentiles, and Matthew was a tax collector!

The Pharisees where the ones that shunned the Gentiles and Tax collectors!

WHO'S EXAMPLE should we follow JESUS or the Pharisees?