My daughter, Dana Starr Shumate
This music evokes for me the everescent essence of my daughter, Dana, about whom I talk in this article.
The Body of Christ might be interested in what one adoptee sent me by e-mail. This particular adoptee just happens to be my first-born daughter, Dana, who is very precious to me and whom any parent would be proud to claim as a daughter.
She writes:
Just thought you might find this interesting, Mom. Hopefully, other denominations will follow.
Original Message
Passed unanimously by the Presbyterian General Assembly in Houston, Texas, 1981.
On Supporting Legislation Regarding the Rights of Adult Adoptees and their Natural Parents From the Presbytery of Newton.
WHEREAS: God our Creator saw fit to use an adult adoptee who was well aware of the truth of his origins (Moses) to deliver the Israelites from bondage to the Egyptians;
WHEREAS: The Psalmist acknowledged the presence of God in the Creation of every individual when he said, You created every part of me; you put me together in my mother's womb ... when I was there - you saw me before I was born, and
WHEREAS: Isaiah affirmed the unliklihood of a mother's ability to erase the memory of a child she bore when he said, "So the Lord answers, 'Can a woman forget her own child that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb?'" and
WHEREAS: Jesus said,You shall know the truth, and the truth shall set you free (John 8:32); and
WHEREAS: The sealed records laws instituted in the last five decades have prevented adopted persons, over whom a contract is made in their infancy when they are helpless to participate in it, from ordinarily knowing the truth of their origins by permanently sealed birth certificates and agency and court records pertaining to their adoption; and
WHEREAS: Although any non-adopted person in the United States has the absolute right to obtain personal vital statistics for a minimal fee, an adoptee must go to court, however expensive and unsuccessful the process, to request a judge to issue a "good cause" order to know the simple truth of who gave birth to her or him; and;
WHEREAS: Because of permanently sealed records, adoptees have no medical, cultural or religious history and often experience emotional anguish; and
WHEREAS: Permanently sealed records have created a mythology about adoption,which is that adopted persons have only one set of parents; the surrender paper in effect becomes a certificate attesting to the death of any relationship at any time between the original parent and child, thus creating for the child a pair of ghost parents who are not in their graves but who may live in the next town, or have hereditary illnesses that do not surface until they are in their middle years (long after any medical history is taken at the child's birth), and whose children, born later, may unknowingly risk incest when they attend college or work in the same places with their half sisters of brothers; and
WHEREAS: Our Lord spoke often of acceptance, forgiveness and reconciliation as qualities desirable for believers to experience in their human and spiritual growth;
THEREFORE: The Presbytery of Newton, meeting at Madison, New Jersey, on March 10, 1981, respectfully overtures the 193rd General Assembly as follows: To go on record as supporting the rights of adult adoptees to receive, upon request, copies of their original birth certificates and court and agency records pertaining to their adoption. To act through the General Assembly Mission Council in encouraging and stimulating Synods,Presbyteries, and local churches to take the following action in supporting adoptees who have reached adulthood, in the desire to know the truth of their origins:
Send letters of support to Congress persons and to the President of the United States. Write letters to the editors of local newspapers and national magazines expressing support of open records. Work to help all persons involved in the adoptive triangle , birth and adoptive parents and adoptees, who comprise ten percent of our population face the reality of their situations with honesty, openness and compassion for one another.
Source: The Right to Know Who You Are: Reform of Adoption Law Honesty.
Amen and Amen. I have watched my daughter struggle with this. She once expressed a feeling of "not being connected to the planet". She did locate her birth mother but does not know the identity of her birth father.
She knows that another child (a boy) was given up for adoption and wonders where and who he is.
This reminds me of the story by Agatha Christie entitled Elephants Can Remember wherein the protaganist was considered by all who knew her uninterested in her past, but who, in fact, thought about it all the time.
As an adoptive parent, I have no right to say to my daughter, "You should not be concerned with this."
Dana has always wanted to know the truth about everything. No matter where I hid it, she would find it. She wants to know the truth about her parentage, is obsessed to know the truth. This, in my opinion, makes her the caring, compassionate person that I know as my daughter today.
We have trampled the rights of the unborn since 1973. Let's not trample the rights of those who were born and who are glad they were, but want to know.