Sit back, have a beer and remember, this could happen to you!!!
Ohhh and if you're thinking of, or already dating this woman read on to get an idea of what kind of person she REALLY is!!
Beware, especially you miliary guys, away from home, this could happen to you!!!
It all starts with a night out having a good time when you meet someone thinking you'll have a night of fun. One night turns into a week, then a month. Things are going good....then reality hits and you hear "I'm pregnant" after only a month of dating. Let's just say surprised is an understatement. (A little advice at this point in the story, better to wrap it than chance it!). You decide to be the man that you are and stand by this person you hardly know and take care of your responsibilites. Then almost as if taken directly from the movie An Officer and A Gentleman, no baby.. Hummm!??! My advise is to definitely run as fast as you can at this point!! If you decide to stay, thinking this person may be someone you want to get to know, read on, as I said this could happen to you!
Fast forward a year, you're stationed overseas, she decides you're not what she wants and begins living with a guy "friend". Here's another "Hummm" she decides to break up with you around the same time she helps out a guy friend by letting him move in?? Okay, let's just go with that!!?
You come home from overseas, she decides to fly to where you are, telling you nothing ever happened with her "guy friend", again reiterating she was just helping him out with a place to stay.. Of course, you have unprotected sex. In a couple weeks you hear she's pregnant. You're thrilled because you have spent enough time with this person to know you love them and want to work on this relationship. You marry, you watch your son being born (2 weeks early of the due date, I might add. At this point I advise all men in this situation to get a paternity test, so that life doesn't take the path to come). Families come visit, life is good.
Forward another year or so, she goes to her home town with your son for training because she's in the reserves. You receive a call, you're not what she wants AGAIN!!! Another man involved? I'd say so.. Best to cut your losses and leave, but maybe there's a reason you don't, destiny steps in, and has a better plan for your future!!! She again comes back to you. (just wanted to give you an idea of how important those marriage vows are to this woman!!).
Now remember that everytime this woman has cheated on you, it's always your fault!!!! You don't help around the house or with the baby, hell any reason to make herself feel it's okay to have an affair.
Fast forward another year or so. Make sure you keep an eye on her cell phone records, you never know when she's having phone conversations with her new interest (remember, you're still married to her)! Yep, she does it AGAIN, you're not what she wants. By this time you are so attached to your child, you are willing to do anything to make this marriage work. She goes to church on Sunday (doesn't want you to go), takes your son to a movie with a guy (awww yes, another "guy friend") You don't find out a 3rd person went to the movie until you check her wallet that night and find 3 movie stubs. You confront her and she tells you she just needed to talk to someone (as I said, here we go again)!!!
You get the gut feeling (always go with your gut feelings, their usually right) she's having an affair. Your unit is going out of town for a week of training, so you decide to stay in town to investigate. Sure enough, the very first night she thinks you're gone, you watch some guy pull up to your apartment and carry in a change of clothes. Staying the night you think?? (Yep, as I said go with your gut!!!) You knock on the door, the look on her face when she opens it to see you standing there says it all!! (besides the fact that the guy went hiding in the bathroom when he heard the knock, I'd say that is an admission of guilt wouldn't you??) Keep in mind, your son is also there in bed. This woman is definitely a keeper wouldn't you say??? Ohhh but the story gets even more twisted and deceitful!!!!
You leave, you've agreed to rent a room from a couple buddies on base, feeling as though this is all your fault. There was surely something you could have done to keep her happy and committed to only you. (Some women are, I think they call them "attention whores", yes that's it!!!) In reality nothing you could have done would make this woman happy or keep her committed to any relationship, as you've seen over and over again in previous years!!!
Okay, now for the biggie!!!! The ultimate deceit and vicious lie!!!!!!
Here is where destiny's plan for your future steps in!! Years before, you wouldn't have taken the steps you are about to take!
You have a gut feeling (there it is again!) that your son isn't your son, you secretly perform a paternity test. A week later, you get the news! Tested male is excluded as the biological father of the tested child!!!! Probability = 0%. You immediately confront her about it, all she can say is "I swear I didn't know", divine conception????? She told you 5 years earlier nothing happened with her "guy friend"!!! She doesn't even argue the test results. (Okay here's another Hummmm!!!) Did she know from the very beginning? Did she come to visit you years ago because she knew you'd be the responsible one, and that she was already pregnant???
I'd say that's a given!!!!
But wait, there's more!!!!
After you catch her with the other man, she starts treating you even worse than before, not talking to you... (maybe her guilt was getting to her? I doubt it!! She's pissed because she got caught!!). When she finds out you are smart enough to check paternity, she decides to start talking to you again.. going to lunch with you...She knows you're talking with your attorney regarding divorce, and continuing a relationship with what you consider still your son (maybe that's why she's being so nice?? Ohhhh yea, she doesn't do anything unless the outcome is good for her!!).
You throw her a curve ball and inform her you are not going to make a legal agreement for visitation and child support but want to make a verbal agreement. She comes apart at the seams and tells you "she is not going to let you see her son and just give her money whenever you want!!" Remember, the attorney has told you she has the right to go after the biological father for child support also and he can decide to have a relationship with his child, leaving you completely out in the cold. At that point you would have to go back to court, pay an attorney to cancel the visitation and child support agreement between you and her. She says she wouldn't do that, but from her past record are you kidding??? What kind of woman and mother is more concern about the money and locking you into a legal agreement than her son's welfare. Keeping him away from the only father he knows, the one that has loved and cared for him since day one!!
All I can say is, count your blessings and get as far away from this woman as you can, let some other man deal with her lies and deceit!!! (believe me, there will be other men, lots of them!!) There you have it my friends!! This is a true story! I felt it my obligation to warn all men who get involved with this woman as well as others like her!!
If this does happen to you, just remember
Life goes on, time heals all, and destiny has stepped in to give you a second chance for bright, happy future!!!
UPDATE!
There is more to the story! Thank you Geocites for enabling people to put stories such as this out there, the biological father saw the site and a whole new chapter comes to light!! Well as we all guessed, the biological father IS the "guy friend" from the beginning and you find out she DID know all along it wasn't your child. You also find that her parents knew of this deceit from the beginning. He was told after she returned from a visit with you while on leave that she had a miscarriage. She continued to see him after you went back. This woman and her family have effected, most importantly a child's life, as well as two men's lives with no remorse and no consequence!! I do believe what comes around goes around and Karma will step in one day
In the beginning, this is the person you see... the devil in disquise?
This is the face you will see after a couple years of being with her, not so pretty now, huh???
That's gotta hurt!
