First of all let us establish this point: I AM NOT AN EXPERT!! I am just a regular Joe, or shall I say, Mary, like you. But I have lived through a lot of mistakes. Some my own, some other people's, but I have lived through them and have them as an experience.
This page is about picking up the torch and/or relighting the flame. I am not going to talk about how good love is soooo hard to find. That information will be on another, up and coming page.
What I am going to get into on this page is the fact that we all have a need to to feel loved. In some way, shape, or form, we all need something, or someone to make us feel like the sun and moon rise and set to what we say and do.
Now that we have that out of the way: Romance is more of a showing of love between two people. It is not having sex, making out, or any of that, it is simply showing appreciation for a person by making the time you spend together special. That is the most simple way I can put it.
This only works if you are willing to put the feelings of the other person before your own. You must be willing to say, "tonight,(or today, this evening, whatever fits), I want us to become closer. I want to know more about what makes you, YOU." Take time to listen, and do not quickly judge whatever they have to say. You may be surprised to find out that the person you thought you knew like a book really doesn't like your spaghetti, loves your poetry, or thinks your mother is tolerable, to a certain degree. What ever your partner says, respect his/her opinion. You will not always agree on everything, but who ever said that life would be a field of flowers?
Here are some ideas on getting those sticks ready to rub up a fire:
Exchange massages. I am not talking about anything kinky. The type of massage is totally up to you, and will depend on how long you have been with you mate. Some nice massages to try include hand/foot, back, and neck massages. You can experiment with different massage oils, lotions and techniques. This can prove to be particularly soothing when there is no vocal interaction. CDs with sounds of the ocean or rainstorms are also helpful.
Relaxation CD's, (you can also get some great relaxation CD's at most Hallmark Card stores)
You can also get together and read to each other. This is taking for granted that you both enjoy intellectual stimulation, and that you enjoy the same types of reading material.
Give your mate a hug. Talking hugs are great. You know the type when you hug and talk and lay out on the bed or couch, still hugging, still talking. Or try the front-to-back hug. When you sneak up from behind and wrap your arms around him/her and don't say a word. A hug that speaks for itself is the greatest hug in the world.
Take time to do something that he/she likes to do. You know that your mate loves to watch Bulls games, and you know that there is a game coming on Tuesday. Take some time out to read up on basketball and then make a finger foods dinner and make a date to watch the game. There will be only two rules:
DO NOT ASK ANY QUESTIONS
DO NOT TRY TO CUDDLE DURING THE GAME.
These are the main reason's that most sports fans do not watch games with their mate.
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