Q17.. Were
the affects generally:
- Positive, Negative, or Neutral
on your relationship with your husband (before
he discovered your affair)?
M18. What were the affects?
M19. What were the reason(s) for the affair?
Abuse.
Lack of sexual satisfaction.
Need for a different touch or intimacy of another human being.
Payback.
Loneliness.
Feelings
of inadequacy.
Doubts
about your attractiveness, desireability.
Emotional closeness( someone to talk to).
Freedom from a confining marriage.
Curiosity.
Adventure/Intrigue.
Physical attraction to your lover.
Q20. What was the frequency of sex you had with
your husband before the affair?
perWeek Month Year?
M21. What was the reason for this?
Q21. What was the frequency of sex you had with
your husband after you started your affair?
perWeek Month Year?
Q22. What was the frequency of sex you had with
your lover?
perWeek Month Year?
Q23. Did the frequency of sex you had with your
lover outnumber the times you could have had sex with your husband?Yes No
Q24. During your affair did your treatment of
your husband:
Improve Worsen Remain Unchanged? M24a. How would you explain
this?
Q25. During your affair did your husband's treatment
of you:
Improve Worsen Remain Unchanged? M25a.
How would you explain this?
Q26. Did your affair increase or decrease the
dissatisfactions you had with you spouse?Yes No
M26a. Explain:
Q27. Would you have another affair? Yes No
Q28. How many sexual experiences did you have
before marriage? None Few Many
Q28a. At what age did you become sexually active?
Q29. Do you think this had any influence on your
having an affair? Yes No
M29a. Explain?
Q30. After your extramarital sex became more
frequent did the guilt you feel:IncreaseDecrease.
Q31. Did your affair help you stay married? Yes No
M31a. How?
Q32. If you divorced following your affair, what
affect did your affair have on your decision to divorce?
M32a. Explain?
Q33. Did your affair increase the dissatisfaction
with your spouse which led to the divorce? Yes No
Q34. Did having your affair make it easier for
you to decide to divorce? Yes No
M34a. Why?
M25. Prostitution has been a part of all world
societies since before the beginning of recorded history. The majority
of Sociologists regard sex-for-hire as a valuable supplement to marriage
by satisfying sexual urges deemed inappropriate within the bounds of marriage;
restricting sexual relationships such as child bearing and child rearing
to marriage while still allowing for a variety of sexual appetites.
Prostitution also allows married men (men in general) easy access to attractive
women who would normally be beyond their reach. In addition, prostitution
is sex which is quick, easy, with no strings attached, unlike the difficulties
and entanglements of an affair. Now, in light of the fact that male
prostitutes are typically homosexual, what equal option is available to
the married woman for the same gratification and release that would not
result in simple usury and harm?
What do you think?
Q36. Did you at any time during your affair feel
used? Yes No
M36a. How? Why?
M37. What was it you sought in having an affair?
Q37a. Did you attain it?Yes No
Q38. Did your lover start to pressure you to
leave your husband? If so, did he become careless which put you at
greater risk of being discovered? Yes No
Q39. The majority of affairs are started due
to some physical or emotional dissatisfaction in the marital relationship.
What "emotional baggage" did you or your lover bring to the affair
and what were the effects? Did it interfere
in the positive effects sought in the affair?
M39a. Explain?
M40. If your affair ended, how did it end?
Describe?
M41. Please describe the (typical) time you and
your lover spent together. For instance, where did you go?
What did you do? How did you feel about it? Did your lover
seem to confine you to the bedroom?
Explain?
Q42. Was your lover: SingleMarriedSeparatedDivorced?
What were the special complications due to your lover's marital status?
M42a. Explain?
Q43. When your affair first began you (hopefully)
practised safe sex. After awhile your safe sex became unprotected
sex. Were there any tests performed to detect any sexually transmitted
diseases before you switched to unprotected sex? Yes No
Q44. Did your lover tell anyone--a coworker,
friend, etc., about his affair with you? Yes No Q44a. Did you confide in anyone? Yes No M44B. What were the consequences of this third party knowledge?
M44b. Explain?
Q45. Is your lover jealous or threatened by your
friendships with other men? Yes No How do you think this relates to you cheating on your husband
with him?
M45a. Explain?
Your Comments:
NOTE: The Nice Girl Survey applies equally to you. Please
fill it out and submit, if you would. It is much shorter, and
personally I believe, most interesting.