Nice Girls Survey.

     The Internet offers a fantastic opportunity to structure
this book to be of the greatest help to the greatest number; to
structure this book into a primary source of information for all.

 This survey will comprise one entire chapter of the book and
provide information for the examination of various theories and ideas.
Please answer the questions as if you were writing to make your best
friend understand.  There is but one rule:  Keep it anonymous--
Do not use your name or the true names of others
in your comments. This is important!!!.  Other than that, have fun!


 


 The Third Option Survey
A Book Research Project
 
 
 

Questions for Nice Girls: All Women.














 These questions are tough.  Please be honest.
 Each question is structured to test certain theories.
 
 

Q1. What name would you like to use?  First: Last Intial:    (Use TAB key)
Q2. Your Age:
Q3. Your Height:
Q4. Your Weight:
Q5. Your Education:

 

Less than High School.
High.Associate.
Bachelors.
Masters.Doctorate.


Q6. Your Occupation:
Q7. How many children do you have?

M8. Describe your typical day?

Q9. If an athiest is 0, the Pope 10, what number would best describe your religious belief?

Q10. Your Self esteem:         Scale 1 to 10

Q11. Marital Status:
Married  Q11a. Yrs.Mos.  Q11b. How many marriages?
Single.
Divorced.      &nb sp; Q11D. After how many years married?
Remarried      &n bsp;  Q11d. How many remarried?
Separated.
 
 
 

SCENARIO #1

     The scene is a cave on the California Coast.  A fat man is leading a group of five explorers out of the cave.  High tide is only a few minutes away.  They must be out of the cave before high tide or they will drown.  The fat man squeezes through the one and only opening and gets stuck.  His head is above ground, his body below.  The five other explorers are trapped behind him.  As the try and try to pry the man loose water rises about their feet.  Soon they will drown.  One of the explorers finds a stick of dynamite floating about their feet.  If they use the dynamite to unstick the man it will surely kill him.  If they don't they will surely drown.  What should they do?

S1. Use the dynamite. Drown.
 

Q12. Is sex Pleasureable? Yes No

Q13. Is sex Recreational? Yes No

Q14. Do you think people ought to wait until marriage to have sex? Yes No

    Q14yes.  What if the person spends their entire lifetime single?  Should they be denied the pleasures or experience of sex? Yes No

     Q14no.  Do you think it is possible for someone to enjoy sex without being in love? Yes No

Q15. Do you think adultery is always wrong in each and every case? Yes No

Q16. How important do you think touch and intimacy is to marital happiness?
Vital. Important. A Necessary Evil. Not Important..
 
Q18. Small problems tend to grow into larger problems.  Do you think the affects of these problems stay isolated in one area of a relationship or do they tend to affect other areas as well? Remain Isolated. Affect other areas of the relationship.
 

 

SCENARIO #2
     LeeAnn is an attractive thirty-seven year old mother of five.  She has a loving husband of eighteen years, a new house, car, career and an extended network of family and friends.  Three years ago her husband lost interest in sex.  At first she dropped subtle hints. When this did not work she dropped not so subtle hints.  Finally, in an act of desperation, she confronted him and pleaded that he get help.  He insists there is nothing wrong and blantantly refuses.  He is happy going to work, coming home, then spending the evening watching football reruns on TV.  She has tried everything in her power, all to no avail.  What should she do?
S2.   Live With it. Get a divorce.
S2a. If she lives with it:  Is it fair for LeeAnn to grow old being denied what she finds pleasure in? Yes No
 

S2b. If she gets a divorce: Is it fair for LeeAnn to disrupt an otherwise happy family because she can find no sexual satisfaction with her husband? Yes No

Q19A. Do you think LeeAnn's lack of sexual satisfaction would begin affecting other areas of their relationship? Yes No

Q19B.  Could this lead to a divorce? Yes No

Q20. If a two-week fling solved what was lacking in a ten-year marriage would the fling be good or bad? 

Good Bad
 

Q20g. If it was good: What if instead of two-weeks the fling lasted two years? Good Bad
 

Q20b. If it was bad: Would a divorce or LeeAnn sacrificing her youth be preferrable? Yes No

Q21.  Have you ever looked at another man and secretly wondered what it would be like to sleep with him? 

Yes No

Q22. You are talking to two men you met just recently.  One is attractive and the other is not so attractive.  Which man are you more comfortable with? More attractive. Less Attractive.


M22. Why?

Q23. If a person had only one sexual experience in their life do you think that person could possibly feel they were missing out on some of the adventure life had to offer? Yes No

Q24. Think back to the very first time you became intimate with someone.  Do you remember the mystery and romance of that first sexual encounter?  Do you at times, now, miss those feelings and wish you could find them again? Yes No

Q25. Do you think this longing for mystery and romance could be an appealing part of an extra-marital romance? Yes No
 

Q26. If your best friend opted for an absolutely safe affair over a divorce would you think she was right or wrong? Right. Wrong.

Q26w.    If wrong: What if what your friend found in her affair made her happy which caused the marriage to continue making her husband and her children happy? Two-plus people happy instead of two-plus people miserable. Right. Wrong.

Q27.  Do you believe that because you are married this gives the other person exclusive rights to your life, your well-being, your happiness? Yes No

Q28.  In our culture men can have sex with any woman.  Women, generally, can only have sex with a man whom they have love and affection for.  Do women--especially teenage women-- confuse love with sexual desire?  Do they convince themselves they love a man so they can feel good about having sex with him, i.e., "I'm horny but I cannot have sex with you unless I convince myself I love you first?" Yes No

Q29.  Some men put out the signal they are available by degrading their wives or placing the blame for the affair on them.  How does this make you feel?  Do you think such eagerness to degrade one's wife in order to sleep with someone else should be a warning sign, a red flag, for all women?
Yes No

Q30.  Marriage is a social norm.  We are all raised with the idea that marriage is the natural progression of events in the chain of human intimacy.  The average age of marriage for the man is 26.6 years (U.S. Census, 1996 est.). Further, common sense and our own observations show that divorce is about as stressful as a death of a loved one.  With all these influences, if a man is single or divorced past the median age of 26.6 years, what questions should arise about the man?  Should these questions serve as a red flag and a warning to use caution? Yes No
RELATED:  See Affairs Diagram. Affairs Diagram

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